Introducing Better Sex to Your Partner

Introducing Better Sex to Your Partner

You may be wildly in love with your partner or spouse but there may be something lacking in your relationship.  You communicate well, you work together perfectly, you get along great and you make love but there is just something missing.  This failing element may be in the bedroom.  The good part is that there is a way to spice things up a bit and it will help to create a stronger union in the partnership. 

Kama Sutra is not just about some crazy sex positions.  There are many ways to interpret this doctrine and there is a lot more information than just 64 positions.  These different poses can actually bring couples closer together on all levels; physically, emotionally and spiritually.  It is easy for partners to say that they are in love and trust one another, but how can you actually physically demonstrate this love and trust?

You can demonstrate your love by the act of making love but creating a different ambiance in the bedroom will show your partner that you are open to new pleasurable experiences. Trust builds in your relationship with these positions because they are entirely new and you have to rely on your partner much more than in the average missionary position.  The best way to develop these more intense emotions of love, trust and even security is by testing out the waters.

There are many positions to choose from and of these there are variations.  Mix those in with foreplay and this lifetime may not be enough to experiment with every combination, but there is no harm in trying!  Here are some of my favorites that are great for beginners in Kama Sutra:

  • The Deep One: This position is fantastic since you are able to feel the closeness of your partner and look him/her in the eye.  The man fully penetrates the woman as she lies on her back and with her feet on his shoulders.
  • The Arc: This position is similar to the Deep One since you are still physically close to your partner.  The woman continues to lay on her back and lifts her hips up by placing her hands by her ears, the elbows facing up, and pressing up.  The man slithers through to penetrate while supporting her lower back and bottom.
  • The Trapeze: If you are looking for something a little more aerobatic, the Trapeze is quite fun as it will let the woman let loose of all her stress and anxiety.  With penetration in full effect, the man gently lowers the woman off of the edge of the bed all the way by taking her wrists as he sits with his feet on the floor.
  • The Mill Vanes: This position is a little trickier and it involves trust as you are as far as you can be from your partner during intercourse.  This can be a bit frightening but it can actually help to relieve jealousy in the relationship.  For this act, the woman lies down on her back.  The man lies down on top of her but feet are towards her head.  As he separates his legs to have one on each side of her head, she lifts her legs up and wraps them around his back.  The woman can grab on to her partner as he supports himself with his forearms.

You should never do anything that makes either of you feel uncomfortable.  As long as you are open to the experience, there are many positions that you can perform which lead up to more advanced and exposed positions.  Start off slow and work your way to new positions.  You will see that as you bring in the physical element more that your relationship begins to blossom more and that as this relationship becomes stronger, the more willing you are to test out new Kama Sutra positions.

Getting laid through a dating site

Today I met with one of the members of a dating site I joined some time ago. It’s nice to find mature people that are interested only in one night stands… no strings attached. Of course, I’m picky about who I meet, and there was something special about this one. He’s been sending me messages for about 5 weeks now, and I could say I was impressed by his perseverance. He was not really my type… short, dark complexion and in his 50, but the way he wrote the messages was really hot.

We met at a small pub near my place. He suggested it so I guess he lives near by… and that he’s not a stalker. He couldn’t be. The site never gave away my identity before, so it was just a weird coincidence. He described himself perfectly, so it was easy for me to find him in there. He was a bit surprised when he saw me: ‘You look younger than 25… and too good to be true’. ‘I’m not showing you my ID, if that is what you’re aiming for’ I told him. He smiled. We started talking about each other, but not like in a typical date. We didn’t describe our likes and dislikes, but our sexual fantasies… and it all started with a sex joke. Of course, he told me that he was married, but he wasn’t wearing any ring… so he could have said that to make it clear that he wasn’t looking for a relationship. It was OK with me.

He said that he fantasizes about teenagers, and that I almost look like one. That was weird, but it managed to turn me on. He talked about how he would be the teacher and punish the girl for not paying attention in class. ‘I need to use the bathroom. Be right back’. I went to the toilet, to freshen up. Actually, I went in there to make him a surprise. I pulled my hair in two ponytails, and when I came back, he smiled and asked if I wanted to continue back at his place. So we went there.

Fortunately for me, his place was in the opposite side of the city, so I guess he chose the meeting location because of that. We went up into his apartment, and he gave me a drink. ‘Young lady, should you be drinking that?’ I think he started to play out his fantasy. ‘Sorry Sir, please don’t tell my parents.’

‘You’ve been a very bad girl! Turn around!’

I turned around and he lifted my skirt up. ‘You naughty little girl! Does you mommy know you are wearing thong?’ Then, he went to sit on the sofa, and told me to come there, pointing at his lap. I came near him and he put me on his lap with my ass pointing up. He grabbed the back of the thong and stretched it at its limit. Then he let it slap me, and repeated it for several times. If felt good. The front of my thong was all wet and he saw that. He pulled my head back from one of the ponytails and he put his finger in my pussy. ‘You like that, don’t you?’

‘Yes, Sir.’

‘Now be a good girl and make me happy’

He lifted me up and opened his fly. His cock was quite small, but it was rock hard and thick. It wasn’t hard for me to put it all in my mouth. I sucked it until he came, which didn’t take him long. But his cock was still hard, so I laid on the sofa, waiting for him to fuck me from behind. He slapped my ass really hard and then put his cock inside. As wet as I was, it still hurt a bit when he did it. I guess I was too tight for it, but it felt amazing. I come before him, but he managed to make me come again before his number was over.

That was quite a good experience. I should accept Internet dates more often. It seams that today was another good day for science…

Wet threesome on a rainy day

Today I finished work as usual and I got ready to go home. It was cloudy and I didn’t bring my umbrella, so I though about taking a cab. By the time I exited the building, it was already raining, so I rushed into the first taxi that was parked near the side walk. I told the taxi driver my address, but he shook his head in disapproval. ‘Sorry Miss, it’s pouring outside and I can’t see a thing!’. Indeed, it was raining much more thick, so I asked him if I could stay in there for a few minutes, until the rain slowed down. ‘Of course you can. I’ll take you to your destination as soon as it’s clear for me to go.’ So I took a comfortable position, thinking that it’s going to take a while… and for certain I wasn’t expecting any visits…

After a couple of boring minutes, the back door from my left opened and someone jumped into the cab. ‘I’m sorry, I thought it was free’ said the voice of a woman. She took of the coat that was covering her head and I could see her long wet hair covering the sides of her face. ‘It’s OK, the cab isn’t going anywhere for now’. We introduced each other, as she took her coat of. She was wearing white canvas pants that she couldn’t manage to save from the rain. I could fully see her legs through them, and it was a nice view to enjoy. We started talking about mundane things when the left door opened again.

A man jumped into the cab, wet as my previous visitor. Again, he apologized for thinking that the cab was free, and he introduced himself to us. I could see that he also noticed the nice legs that the other woman was not making an effort to cover. After talking for a bit, I could sense the sexual tension between the two. The intensity of the rain began to slow down, so the cab driver asked us where he can take us first. ‘Do you want to come by my place for a coup of hot coffee?’ I asked the two. The woman hesitated for a bit, but she was persuaded by the man. So the taxi took us to my apartment. I guess I had something in mind…

When we got inside, I suggested the woman, let’s call her Jess, that she should change her pants, and I went with her to the bedroom, leaving the man to dry himself in the bathroom. I gave her a clean robe and she had nothing against taking her clothes of in front of me. He skin was wet and cold and her nipples were hard and wrinkled. She got the robe on and we went into the living room, where our man was waiting impatient. ‘I’ll go make some coffee’ and I left the two sitting on the sofa.

I went into the kitchen to make coffee, thinking I could charm at least one of them to stay with me until late in the night, and Jess was the one I had in mind. I couldn’t stop thinking about her wet white skin so I barely managed to make a decent coffee. When I got back to the two, I went for a surprise. It seems that Jess was no longer wearing my robe… she was wearing the man, or better yet, the man was wearing her. The robe was laying on the floor while she was sitting in his lap having his cock inside her. She turned her head towards me, putting an innocent face ‘Sorry for this. You can watch us, or you can join in.’ I guess I wanted both things. I put down the coffee and sat on a chair, looking at them. The man had his pants dropped to his ankles and his hands were busy warning her nipples. The way in which Jess moved really turned me on… to the point that I couldn’t watch anymore. So I joined in. I walked to them, stripping of my clothes, and I sat next to them. The man came, so Jess stopped riding him and she got in my laps, kissing my ears and neck. The man got up in front of us, pulling me until I felt under Jess… and then he went down on me. That felt incredible. Then I started pleasuring Jess with my mouth, until she came. The guy got on his knees, putting his cock inside me and fucking me hard. Jess stretched on her back until she was able to kiss him. That image and his hard cock made me come. When it was over, I suggested them to sleep at my place for the night, but Jess had a family to go to, so I was left with the man. I can’t complain. Today was a good day for science…

Sexual Positions & Orgasm the Kama Sutra take

The Kama Sutra as mentioned before advocates a series of postures best suited to the body structure and size of the sex organs of the partners involved. Here’s looking at some of them.

a) Samarati or Equally Matched

When both the partners are of the same body structure, they can stretch their bodies and indulge in any kind of position for maximum sexual gratification without any problems or inconvenience.

b) Badava Asan or Cow Posture

This posture is recommended for females who are of normal body structure. However, if such a female has to facilitate the penetration of a male with a huge penis, she has to spread her thighs to the maximum to make this possible. When it comes to accommodating a male with a small sized penis, she has to contract her body to match that of her partner. In either case, it is the lubrication and wetness that is of utmost importance and that is achieved only through proper foreplay.

c) Bhugnak position

In this, the female while lying flat, raises her thighs while keeping her legs folded at the knees, which she rests on the torso of her partner, who penetrates her in a half sitting posture.

d) Jrimbhitak

Here, the female after raising her legs rests them against the shoulders of her partner. The male while adopting a sitting position such that his knees come up to his partner’s shoulders enters her. This position causes a contraction of the sex organ of the female, making it easier for males with a small sized penis to enter.

e) Utpiritaka

This is a position that can be performed only if both partners are physically fit and should not be attempted by people with heart problems. Here, the female rests her folded legs on her partner’s chest, while he puts his legs on her shoulders and then enters her. It causes a significant quickening of heart beats and must be attempted only by fit couples.

Orgasm related facts

Having set the stage for hectic sexual activity, couples must know how to express the joy of having reached an orgasm. Remember, the sole objective of indulging in sex is to provide enjoyment and satisfaction to your partner and the activity itself needs to culminate in an orgasm, signifying the achievement of the objective.

This can be expressed by partners by hitting each other on the sides of the body or by biting each other. Females normally indicate that they are in the throes of an orgasm by scratching, biting or hitting their partner with their fists and palms.

At this point, partners may produce various moans and sounds including verbiage like, ‘it is killing me, stop it, leave me etc’ and these messages are actually meant to convey the opposite meaning. When things do settle down, there is silence as the partners experience deep bliss and a sense of satisfaction.

Many couples resort to change of roles after a torrid session and this time, it is the female who mounts the male and plays the dominant role. Kama Sutra recommends that the female must straight away take the initiative and actually behave like a male when adopting this posture for maximum sexual enjoyment to both the partners.

Kama Sutra – sexual positions you never imagined

Kama sutra is not only about various sexual intercourse positions. It is a treatise on the art of living life, sourcing a good life partner, ensuring that both the partners are happy in marriage etc. The misunderstanding about Kama sutra being primarily a book about various sexual positions only stemmed from the unusual emphasis placed on a specific chapter, which discussed the various facets of sex like positions, biting, kissing, oral sex and other forms of unusual sex. Following versions of this chapter in other releases of Kama sutra went a step further and dotted the book with raunchy illustrations, there by overshadowing other useful and informative chapters in the book.

The western world was exposed to the Kama sutra through the efforts of Sir Richard Burton, who translated the original work of Vatsyayana. More than the translation, it was his attempt to publish his work in an extremely sexually repressive and moralistic Victorian period that was remarkable. This work became very popular in the year 1883 and kept getting pirated and clandestinely printed through the years till 1962, when the first formal publication got released in the UK and United States.

Kama sutra is regarded as a classic to this day due to its ability to discuss basic human emotions like lust, shyness, seduction, rejection and manipulation. In ancient India, this book was one of the three textbooks recommended in the study of human sciences, the other two being Dharma (morality/justice) and Artha (money/success). These three books were a must for every person seeking education and it is clear from this that ancient India accorded a lot of importance to not only sex education but also to the art of sensuality.

Kama sutra recognizes women as a very active participant and promotes the sexuality of women as an integral part of the whole sexual act. Vatsyayana actually devotes two full chapters to women, the sixth chapter to the courtesans and the fourth chapter to wives.

Women’s participation in Kama sutra

The unique aspect of the portrayal of women in Kama sutra is the active role that is assigned to her in the fulfillment of the sex act. She is not the passive partner at the receiving end of a man’s lust. Preliminary love which features the act of embracing the partner shows the women playing the active role on two different occasions. In the first one, she encloses her man totally and offers her inviting lips for a kiss which leads to tremendous sexual excitement in the man. The second instance shows her resting one of her feet on her man’s foot and the other on his thigh, while one of her arms is holding on to his shoulder with the other arm around his back. The posture depicts as if she is about to climb on top of him and shows her as a very active and aggressive participant. It only goes to show the stress that Kama sutra lay on the fact that a woman who enjoys sex by actively participating in foreplay can make the entire experience very thrilling for the man as well.

The Kama sutra presents women not as mere sexual objects, but as personalities with a lot of desire to enjoy sex. One of the other chapters also advocates the need for gentleness in a man when having sex with a virgin.

Kama sutra is therefore a full guide on how to enjoy one of life’s most thrilling and essential acts, while recognizing the desires and wants of women as equal partners in the journey.