12 ways to know if he/she is sexually healthy

12 ways to know if he/she is sexually healthy

12 ways to know who is sexually healthy

12 ways to know who is sexually healthy

It is one thing to be sexually active, and it is also another thing to be sexually healthy. Oftentimes being sexually active might not mean that such a person is sexually healthy.

When someone is sexually active it means that person can respond positively to a variety of sexual activity which includes oral sex, ( blow jobs, anal sex, ) manual sex, or being fingered.

On the other hand, when someone is sexually healthy, it means such a person is in a state of physical, mental and social well-being, concerning sexuality. To be in this state, It requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of force, and violence.

How can I know if he/she is sexually healthy?

To know if your partner is sexually healthy involves a variety of factors which includes but not limited to the following.

1. Interacts with anyone( both genders ) in reasonable and respective ways

One of the ways to know if a person is sexually healthy or not is the way they interact with anyone. A sexually healthy person interacts with you or anyone for that matter reasonably and respectably. Such a person extensively communicates his/her sexual limits, what turns them on and off. They communicate most respectfully and maturely when they are not in the mood. This is always opposite with someone who is not sexually healthy.

2. A sexually healthy person respects boundaries and limits

A sexually healthy person adheres strictly to what his/her partner does and doesn’t. Such a person does not have to force things to happen. They respect limits and boundaries.

3. A sexually healthy person makes intention known

One of the distinctive characteristics of a sexually healthy person is that they communicate their real intention or purpose of being in a relationship. Such a person does not manipulate emotions or sugar-quote words to take advantage of their partner. A sexually healthy communicates whether his/her purpose for the relationship is for sex with no strings attached or just to catch strips.

4. A sexually healthy person has no hidden agenda whatsoever

Can adequately express themselves or what they feel without caressing, kissing, holding, etc

Those who fall into this category have an inbuilt ability to adequately express themselves with having to hold, kiss or caress.

They have the power and ability to control their bodies and emotions.

5. Appreciates their bodies

A sexually healthy person is aware of how special they are, they appreciate themselves, and their bodies. Hence, a sexually healthy person does not body shame their partners. They value, respect and appreciate other people’s bodies.

6. Knows when sex is required or not

One of the characteristics of a sexually active person is the ability to know when they need touch rather than sex. They understand their body needs and can tell if what they need is a touch cuddle or sex.

7. Feel joy in sexual experiences of their choosing

A sexually active person feels and enjoys the sexual experience of their choosing. Such a person is conscious of his/her sexual decision and feels the maximum experience of their sexual choices.
Demonstrates tolerance for people with different values

When you see a sexually healthy person, you’ll recognize such a person by the way they treat people both male and female. A sexually healthy person demonstrates great tolerance for people with different values and ideology. Shows respect to others whose cultural values, ethnic heritage, age, socioeconomic status, religion, and gender are different from theirs.

A sexually healthy person understands that everyone has a different perspective, views, orientations about life.

8. A sexually healthy person is conscious of unplanned contingencies.

A sexually active person is conscious of their body changes, use contraception effectively and use condoms for safer sex to avoid contracting or spreading a sexually transmitted disease.

9. Honor the sacred aspect of sexual union

A sexually active person understands and honors the sacred aspect of sexual union. They understand the spiritual sacredness of sexual and accords maximum respect.

10. Can manage friendships that do not have a sexual agenda

Most sexually responsible people know how to efficiently manage friendships that have no sexual strings. They can create healthy friendship relationships that are void of sex. A sexually healthy person knows how to set friendship boundaries and can manage situations that demand painstaking care and maturity.

11. Good listener

A sexually healthy person is a good listener. he/she knows when to talk, what to say without negatively affecting the feelings and emotions of one another.

A sexually healthy person chooses responsible, safe and trustworthy partners and both parties define the essence of the relationship from inception.

A sexually healthy person accepts faults or mistakes and takes responsibility for actions.

Healthy Ways to Have Sex

18_weekly-sex-qa_flashIs there really such a thing as having healthy sex and if so, what is it?  We already know that you are encouraged to have protected sex, which is more like being safe during sexual activities.  But, what able couples who like to have sex but want to get more health benefits from it.  Are there certain positions to do it in, pill supplements or sex toys that may encourage healthier sex relations? This can be a trick question if you like to have sex with multiple partners or you are sexually active just for the sake of having sex.

Perfect Sex Tips For Married Couples


Marriages fail due to boredom and infidelity mostly due to lack of spark in the sex life of married couples. Your partners physical and sexual qualities don’t look favorable any more like the first time you met.

Those times when the bed used to be spicy and you both couldn’t wait for the night to come so you can both jump into a romantic adventure on your bed. There are  much more traditional ways to brighten your sex life by improving the sexual qualities thereby boosting erotic and sexual tensions more rapidly among married couples that have lost the zeal to play fight under the bed sheets.

The most important fact about boosting a sex life among couples is that both married couples must make effort . This is not for the man or for the woman alone. Expect no valuable result when only you try to make it work. Remember it takes two to tango.

When it comes to sex among married couples, love and sexual union can only be acquired by a continual habit of showing love and practicing sex creatively. You must always think of something new to contribute to the relationship and learn never to be stagnant with the usual sexual concepts.

Here are just a few but promising tips to enable you kick start an enjoyable sex life:

•Learn the art of walking together always either during the day or at night. Walk together at  public resorts or quiet and lonely places. Lean on each other and rub bodies against yourselves. This is popularly called the “rubbing embrace”.
You can do this, rubbing your partner against the wall, a tree or a car. This helps to increase sexual tensions.

• There are no fixed time that you should embrace or kiss your partner. Learn to kiss always. Kiss, pressing scratching and general foreplay should be encouraged and should always be done before  sex.

• To increase tensions , there are specific points which are vital areas that you should kiss to increase the sexual passion just before making love with your partner. This are vital and sensitive areas that stimulates all kinds of internal sexual passion. Start kissing from any point from the thighs, the arm, the neck and also the navel.

You could also practice “clasping kissing” whereby you kiss the upper lip of your partner while he or she in return kisses your lower lip and vice versa. Always kiss your partner even when they are asleep in bed, don’t worry about waking them up it is a mutual reflection of your love.

Have sex as often as you can it is an affectionate sign of a passionate quarrel between two loving couples. Always adopt new ways of foreplay for yourselves before getting down to the sex part of it like having intense foreplay. Wearing jewelry and beads on your neck or hips only without clothes on is one way of creating an atmosphere of seduction.

•Have just a few drinks in bed to get the mood up and keep the blood going. Its fun to be tipsy ones in a while and make funny faces and jokes at each other with such a tipsy state of mind, do this sometimes without having sex. It boost your want and addiction to each others presence.

•Be a little bit rough with each other. Play fight sometimes under the cover of your bed sheets. Learn to get rough and physical in bed sometimes.

•Sex toys and new sex positions are great to try out in bed. Explore your fantasies and sexual adventures. This takes married couples to a whole new level of discovering new things about themselves.

•Although sexual intercourse is an important part of a relationship between married couples, sex is not just about sexual intercourse alone but the way you spend your lives together exploring yourselves intimately, through erotic body communication.

Most importantly, always promote communication between yourselves don’t make things boring, be creative if you want your marriage to be much more pleasurable. Nobody is going to teach you how to be romantic in bed, you have to do it yourselves.

What do you want this Valentine’s Day ?

Although most couples will try to repeat what they are doing each and every year when it comes to celebrating Valentine’s Day, it seems that Very Naughty members have other plans for this day, and it is not surprising while most members are in search for some saucy adventures instead of roses in a park, right? Very Naughty’s survey is quite interesting when it comes to what people are planning to do on this they, we should take a look on the results below:

52% of you are looking for NO-STRINGS SEX! This is no wonder for naughty members but when compared to a mere 5% who are after a LONG-TERM relationship we start to see exactly what folks are searching for.

49% of you consider LOCATION the most important criteria before contacting someone online. Next up is someone’s profile at 22% followed by body shape at 11%. It is no wonder while finding someone near for no-strings sex depends mostly on the location.

53% of you chose MESSAGING as your preferred choice to catch someone’s eye. Next up was sending a WINK at 39%. Messaging is always a more personal approach, indeed, sending a wink could easy a little the work for those shy folks, however a more personal message can definitely have more success.

A WHOPPING 81% of you prefer receiving a MESSAGE to anything else! Exactly why the above 53% prefer sending messages instead of winks, right ?

37% of you are choosing not to be out on a date this Valentine’s Day.