12 ways to know if he/she is sexually healthy

12 ways to know if he/she is sexually healthy

12 ways to know who is sexually healthy

12 ways to know who is sexually healthy

It is one thing to be sexually active, and it is also another thing to be sexually healthy. Oftentimes being sexually active might not mean that such a person is sexually healthy.

When someone is sexually active it means that person can respond positively to a variety of sexual activity which includes oral sex, ( blow jobs, anal sex, ) manual sex, or being fingered.

On the other hand, when someone is sexually healthy, it means such a person is in a state of physical, mental and social well-being, concerning sexuality. To be in this state, It requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of force, and violence.

How can I know if he/she is sexually healthy?

To know if your partner is sexually healthy involves a variety of factors which includes but not limited to the following.

1. Interacts with anyone( both genders ) in reasonable and respective ways

One of the ways to know if a person is sexually healthy or not is the way they interact with anyone. A sexually healthy person interacts with you or anyone for that matter reasonably and respectably. Such a person extensively communicates his/her sexual limits, what turns them on and off. They communicate most respectfully and maturely when they are not in the mood. This is always opposite with someone who is not sexually healthy.

2. A sexually healthy person respects boundaries and limits

A sexually healthy person adheres strictly to what his/her partner does and doesn’t. Such a person does not have to force things to happen. They respect limits and boundaries.

3. A sexually healthy person makes intention known

One of the distinctive characteristics of a sexually healthy person is that they communicate their real intention or purpose of being in a relationship. Such a person does not manipulate emotions or sugar-quote words to take advantage of their partner. A sexually healthy communicates whether his/her purpose for the relationship is for sex with no strings attached or just to catch strips.

4. A sexually healthy person has no hidden agenda whatsoever

Can adequately express themselves or what they feel without caressing, kissing, holding, etc

Those who fall into this category have an inbuilt ability to adequately express themselves with having to hold, kiss or caress.

They have the power and ability to control their bodies and emotions.

5. Appreciates their bodies

A sexually healthy person is aware of how special they are, they appreciate themselves, and their bodies. Hence, a sexually healthy person does not body shame their partners. They value, respect and appreciate other people’s bodies.

6. Knows when sex is required or not

One of the characteristics of a sexually active person is the ability to know when they need touch rather than sex. They understand their body needs and can tell if what they need is a touch cuddle or sex.

7. Feel joy in sexual experiences of their choosing

A sexually active person feels and enjoys the sexual experience of their choosing. Such a person is conscious of his/her sexual decision and feels the maximum experience of their sexual choices.
Demonstrates tolerance for people with different values

When you see a sexually healthy person, you’ll recognize such a person by the way they treat people both male and female. A sexually healthy person demonstrates great tolerance for people with different values and ideology. Shows respect to others whose cultural values, ethnic heritage, age, socioeconomic status, religion, and gender are different from theirs.

A sexually healthy person understands that everyone has a different perspective, views, orientations about life.

8. A sexually healthy person is conscious of unplanned contingencies.

A sexually active person is conscious of their body changes, use contraception effectively and use condoms for safer sex to avoid contracting or spreading a sexually transmitted disease.

9. Honor the sacred aspect of sexual union

A sexually active person understands and honors the sacred aspect of sexual union. They understand the spiritual sacredness of sexual and accords maximum respect.

10. Can manage friendships that do not have a sexual agenda

Most sexually responsible people know how to efficiently manage friendships that have no sexual strings. They can create healthy friendship relationships that are void of sex. A sexually healthy person knows how to set friendship boundaries and can manage situations that demand painstaking care and maturity.

11. Good listener

A sexually healthy person is a good listener. he/she knows when to talk, what to say without negatively affecting the feelings and emotions of one another.

A sexually healthy person chooses responsible, safe and trustworthy partners and both parties define the essence of the relationship from inception.

A sexually healthy person accepts faults or mistakes and takes responsibility for actions.

What do you want this Valentine’s Day ?

Although most couples will try to repeat what they are doing each and every year when it comes to celebrating Valentine’s Day, it seems that Very Naughty members have other plans for this day, and it is not surprising while most members are in search for some saucy adventures instead of roses in a park, right? Very Naughty’s survey is quite interesting when it comes to what people are planning to do on this they, we should take a look on the results below:

52% of you are looking for NO-STRINGS SEX! This is no wonder for naughty members but when compared to a mere 5% who are after a LONG-TERM relationship we start to see exactly what folks are searching for.

49% of you consider LOCATION the most important criteria before contacting someone online. Next up is someone’s profile at 22% followed by body shape at 11%. It is no wonder while finding someone near for no-strings sex depends mostly on the location.

53% of you chose MESSAGING as your preferred choice to catch someone’s eye. Next up was sending a WINK at 39%. Messaging is always a more personal approach, indeed, sending a wink could easy a little the work for those shy folks, however a more personal message can definitely have more success.

A WHOPPING 81% of you prefer receiving a MESSAGE to anything else! Exactly why the above 53% prefer sending messages instead of winks, right ?

37% of you are choosing not to be out on a date this Valentine’s Day.

Sex in the elevator

I came home late today. That jerk wanted me to finish the report by tomorrow. I hate my job. But at least I got to know better my neighbors. Some say it’s not wise to fuck where you live … or does the saying go in a different way?

I live at the eleventh floor and the doorman is always happy to open the door for me. I guess he’s happy about opening the door for anyone. As I was entering the building, the doorman’s fake smile was interrupted by the voice of a man telling him not to close the door. I looked back and I saw a 40 something tall man coming my way. The doorman said ‘Hello mister Smith, how’s life with the little missy?’ Of course his last name was not Smith, but I thought it was a bad idea to write down his real name. Actually, at that time, I didn’t even know who he was because as I told you I’m not much of a social person. I only knew his name and that he was married… and good looking. Oh, yes, and that his family was living in the same building as me. But these are just small and irrelevant details compared to what other details I have relating to him.

As he entered the building, he must not have seen me, because he pushed his suitcase under my…ass. I don’t know how he managed to do that, but perhaps the fact that I was wearing a short baggy skirt eased the process. I only know that when the cold suitcase touched the lower side of my ass, I felt aroused. When I feel aroused, I tend to blush… and he saw that. He apologized for the accident, and tried to be a gentleman by opening the elevator’s door for me. His voice was deep and the more he talked, the more horny I became. By the time we reached the 7th floor, I couldn’t help myself and I jumped on him. I started kissing his neck, with one hand holding his tie up, almost strangling him, and with the other one rubbing his cock. He liked it… I could feel it getting hard. But then, the elevator stopped at the 10th floor, and she pushed me away and ran outside. I just hate a man who leaves me unfinished. I was not suggesting a marriage; I just wanted to have a quickie! God I was horny!

My floor came next, and I got out of the elevator. I started searching for my keys. I can’t concentrate when I’m horny, so the more I searched the more nervous I got. ‘Can I help you with something?’ I heard a voice and as I turned the other way around, the pizza boy was staring at me. I said ‘Yes you can!’ and I pushed him in the elevator. I blocked the door and I started to unzip his pants. He wasn’t saying a word, just smiling. What 18 year old pizza boy would turn down a horny woman? So we started to fuck. Not that it would have mattered at that time, but his cock was really big! I didn’t even take my clothes of, just ripped of my panties and started ridding him. He finished before I did, but that didn’t stop me in getting what I wanted. I continued fucking him because his cock was still hard. And I finished. I got out of the elevator, but not before taking a leaflet… in case I wanted to eat pizza… :).

So perhaps I scared my neighbor, but the pizza guy made my day. I’m sure I’ll see both of them again, though I’m not sure I would fuck the pizza guy again. I get turned on easily, but strangers are simply much more irresistible. And I can say that I now know the pizza guy… really god! Perhaps I should try again with my neighbor?

Tomorrow is another day…