When you’re having sex it’s not a good idea to have certain expectations about your partner or about your experience. Nothing happens as planned and you’ll only be frustrated and make your partner feel uncomfortable.
1. You expect her to do everything you want
You are different people and you are entitled to have different tastes when it comes to sex as well. The right thing to do is to enjoy the common pleasures and not focus on pushing you way into someone else’s idea of fun. You shouldn’t expect you partner to do everything you ask her to, or to like whatever turns you on. For instance, no matter how much you like doing anal, if she doesn’t enjoy it you shouldn’t push her towards doing it, or try to emotionally black-mail her.
2. You want to bring porn into your sex life
You put on a porn movie while you’re having sex without asking her first, thinking that she’ll enjoy it or wouldn’t mind. You are being insensitive and you might be ruining her mood. Just think, if your partner would stare at a porn movie while you are giving your best, wouldn’t that make you feel like you are not that important for the moment? Make sure your partner enjoy the same tings as you do before proposing porn. Also, don’t expect your sex life to be similar to porn movies. It might happen once or twice, but porn movies do not reflect the reality of what happens in the bedroom. So don’t have high standards inspired by porn when you have sex.
3. You expect her to come when you give your best
Even when you are offering your best moves or putting a real effort into making her come, it might not happen. Do these things without aiming for her climax, because otherwise she’ll see that you’re only doing it to make her come and she’ll feel pressured and then unable to feel pleasure. Let her come at her time and don’t insist on it.
Talking about your sex life and the effort related to it
You need at least two people for the sexual intercourse to take place and both of them should take some active part in it. But sometimes the preferences differ and you get the wrong message. Sex should be a great experience or the both of you and it shouldn’t be a routine act.
1. You are making her do the whole work or criticizing for not doing any
You just sit back and relax, thinking it’s her job to satisfy you. You are not a king who needs a sex slave to make him feel good! You need to show her that you do care about satisfying her. Also, don’t criticize her for not doing anything. Not all women are loose in bed and some prefer even standing still while you’re in total control. Criticizing will only make her frustrated and she’ll never be able to come… and it can damage her sex life even with her future boyfriends. You need to talk to see where both of you stand, and make a compromise. If both of you like being passive or aggressive, you can take turns.
2. You don’t spice up your sex life
You do the same number every time. If you are not satisfied with it and neither is your partner, then why not change something? If you do the same things you can’t expect a different result. So talk about trying new things that you both enjoy or would like to experiment and don’t make sex another routine in your life. Think of it this way: where is the excitement of looking forward to sex when you already know in detail what is going to happen?
3. You have sex while you are drunk
It’s not quite a good idea to have sex when you or both of you are excessively drunk. It might lead to unwanted pregnancy but also, it can be a bad experience. When you are drunk you don’t really judge things clearly and your balance is not quite at its best. So you risk hurting yourself and your partner in both of your sensitive areas. If you’re drunk and she’s not, then it’s going to be fun just for you. It might be that you last longer after several beers, but it’s not about the quantity of sex, it’s about the quality. It should be a bonding experience with both of you getting what you want, not just a result of a drunk night.
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