Perhaps you heard it a million times: women actually enjoy foreplay, and the longer it is the more exciting the sex will be. So if you know this, why don’t you put an effort into making sex a great experience, all the time?

1. You don’t do much kissing or you’re not quite a good kisser

It doesn’t matter how good your sexual skills are or how great your moves are, kissing is an important part of having sex. So a good foreplay should always start with a session of intense kissing that developed from an innocent one. Don’t go marching in like the aliens are about to invade Earth. Take your time and kiss your partner, and do it during sex as well. A kiss has the magical power of being romantic, sexy, and arousing you.

2. You go straight for her breasts and/or vagina

There are some women who are turned on by a direct approach, but there are few of them. So unless your partner tells you she wants it straight, don’t grab her intimate parts before she is ready. Do it when you feel she began to be aroused, or if you are dating, make sure she wants you to do it. It will make her feel uncomfortable to have you touching her intimate parts before she is ready, and the sex will not go well for her.

3. You are not delicate with her sensitive areas

If an area is sensitive it means it’s not only going to make her feel good, but it will also indispose her if you can’t be delicate. If she is aroused, then her sensitive areas are going to hurt if you grab them carelessly. These sensitive areas are usually the nipples and the clit, but there can be some exceptions, so make sure you know what your partner’s sensitive areas are. If she has sensible nipples, don’t make her feel like she is breast-feeding a baby: be considerate and don’t jump on them like you never seen a pair before.

4. You don’t care much about what she enjoys

Foreplay is successful if your partner is aroused, and to do that, you need to play by her rules. In other words, you need to know what turns her on. So ask her or find out in a subtle way, and try to remember them before and during sex. Of course, she will still have sex with you even if you don’t care for her turn-ons, but it will not be an experience worth mentioning – and you risk or making her frustrated and searching for pleasures somewhere else. Even if they don’t manage to come, the experience will still be amazing if you do the things she likes.