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Some women really enjoy giving a blow job, other do it just to please their partner. If she doesn’t want to give you one, don’t pressure her or force her, or emotionally black mail her. If she offers to give you one, appreciate it and don’t push your luck.

1. You try to force her head down there

You started the foreplay and while she’s kissing you on your mouth, neck, chest and stomach, your hand is on her head, trying to push her down there. It’s not quite a turn on to be forced to do something. If you see that she resist against your shy push, don’t insist because it’s not that she didn’t get the hint, it’s just that she doesn’t want to give you a blow job. You should try understanding where she stands. So don’t insist because even if she does give it to you, it won’t be because she wanted to. If she agrees to do it, don’t force your penis in her throat if she is not ready or doesn’t like it. Chocking her is not really a way of making her feel good.

2. You hold her hands or her head while she is down there

It might turn you on to be in total control but don’t hold her head while she gives you a blow job. Or, you can hold it as long as you don’t try to control her moves. There are sex toys for that purpose and you can move them as you wish, but your partner isn’t one. Let her be in control of what she is doing and also, don’t hold her hands. In this case, it’s not romantic at all and she might not enjoy pleasuring you if she feels constrained in any way. Of course, if you like this stuff, then talk it over before having sex and see if she enjoys it too.

3. You come in her mouth without asking

This is rude and in some cases even disrespectful. Always ask before you come in her mouth. Don’t make up lame excuses like you didn’t have the time to tell her or you didn’t know you were about to come. Some women don’t enjoy having your sperm in their mouth and she won’t enjoy the sex afterwards.

Make sure you have a good finish for both of you

The finish is as important as the sex and the prelude. Both of you need to be satisfied and sometimes it’s not all about coming.

1. You stop before she had her climax and you don’t make up for it

A woman needs to know you care about her pleasure as well, so give your best not to come before she had her share. If you do, don’t roll over and fall asleep. You can continue giving pleasure even after you came and especially if she is still aroused. Leaving her unfinished when she almost came can be frustrating. Could you handle that every time? Imagine you stopping before you ejaculate and then letting the pleasure die in a slow way. Do something about it!

2. You don’t control your ejaculation

Don’t excuse yourself for not being able to control your ejaculation. If you try and practice, you can do it, so you just have to give a damn! No matter what your partner does to you or how she moves, you are the one who can best control your ejaculation – don’t blame it on her. If you ejaculate, make sure you don’t make an unwanted mess. Control yourself not to come on her face or her body is she doesn’t want you to. And if you make a mess, offer to help with the cleaning no matter where it is.

3. You shout in her ears while you come

You are embracing each other as you are about to come and you start making loud sounds. If you are screaming next to her ear you not only risk of making her def (just kidding), but it also distracts her attention from the pleasure. So, if you scream in her ear, she might loose all the accumulated pleasure and not be able to come. The fun is ruined and you were the only one who had fun.

4. You mark your territory

No, not similar to a lion! But you leave her with love marks that she might be embarrassed about the next day. No mature woman goes to work bragging with ‘Look what my wild partner did to me last night’ – only in your fantasies, perhaps. So don’t leave her with marks, especially if they can’t be hidden. You are not a teenager who needs to show himself and to other people that he did actually get some.

5. You don’t bond after having sex

The best bonding that take place between couples is the one that happens after sex. Hug your partner for a few minutes and let the cigarette or the shower wait for a bit. It is proven that certain hormones are released when two people hug after sex and they are the ones making both of you feel comfortable and secure. I think this is quite important so do something about it.

Women like the journey, not only the outcome. Do this often and not once or occasionally, for her birthday or for Christmas. Respect your partner even during sex and make your best to ensure that both of you get what you want out of sex.

When you’re having sex it’s not a good idea to have certain expectations about your partner or about your experience. Nothing happens as planned and you’ll only be frustrated and make your partner feel uncomfortable.

1. You expect her to do everything you want

You are different people and you are entitled to have different tastes when it comes to sex as well. The right thing to do is to enjoy the common pleasures and not focus on pushing you way into someone else’s idea of fun. You shouldn’t expect you partner to do everything you ask her to, or to like whatever turns you on. For instance, no matter how much you like doing anal, if she doesn’t enjoy it you shouldn’t push her towards doing it, or try to emotionally black-mail her.

2. You want to bring porn into your sex life

You put on a porn movie while you’re having sex without asking her first, thinking that she’ll enjoy it or wouldn’t mind. You are being insensitive and you might be ruining her mood. Just think, if your partner would stare at a porn movie while you are giving your best, wouldn’t that make you feel like you are not that important for the moment? Make sure your partner enjoy the same tings as you do before proposing porn. Also, don’t expect your sex life to be similar to porn movies. It might happen once or twice, but porn movies do not reflect the reality of what happens in the bedroom. So don’t have high standards inspired by porn when you have sex.

3. You expect her to come when you give your best

Even when you are offering your best moves or putting a real effort into making her come, it might not happen. Do these things without aiming for her climax, because otherwise she’ll see that you’re only doing it to make her come and she’ll feel pressured and then unable to feel pleasure. Let her come at her time and don’t insist on it.

Talking about your sex life and the effort related to it

You need at least two people for the sexual intercourse to take place and both of them should take some active part in it. But sometimes the preferences differ and you get the wrong message. Sex should be a great experience or the both of you and it shouldn’t be a routine act.

1. You are making her do the whole work or criticizing for not doing any

You just sit back and relax, thinking it’s her job to satisfy you. You are not a king who needs a sex slave to make him feel good! You need to show her that you do care about satisfying her. Also, don’t criticize her for not doing anything. Not all women are loose in bed and some prefer even standing still while you’re in total control. Criticizing will only make her frustrated and she’ll never be able to come… and it can damage her sex life even with her future boyfriends. You need to talk to see where both of you stand, and make a compromise. If both of you like being passive or aggressive, you can take turns.

2. You don’t spice up your sex life

You do the same number every time. If you are not satisfied with it and neither is your partner, then why not change something? If you do the same things you can’t expect a different result. So talk about trying new things that you both enjoy or would like to experiment and don’t make sex another routine in your life. Think of it this way: where is the excitement of looking forward to sex when you already know in detail what is going to happen?

3. You have sex while you are drunk

It’s not quite a good idea to have sex when you or both of you are excessively drunk. It might lead to unwanted pregnancy but also, it can be a bad experience. When you are drunk you don’t really judge things clearly and your balance is not quite at its best. So you risk hurting yourself and your partner in both of your sensitive areas. If you’re drunk and she’s not, then it’s going to be fun just for you. It might be that you last longer after several beers, but it’s not about the quantity of sex, it’s about the quality. It should be a bonding experience with both of you getting what you want, not just a result of a drunk night.