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Some women really enjoy giving a blow job, other do it just to please their partner. If she doesn’t want to give you one, don’t pressure her or force her, or emotionally black mail her. If she offers to give you one, appreciate it and don’t push your luck.

1. You try to force her head down there

You started the foreplay and while she’s kissing you on your mouth, neck, chest and stomach, your hand is on her head, trying to push her down there. It’s not quite a turn on to be forced to do something. If you see that she resist against your shy push, don’t insist because it’s not that she didn’t get the hint, it’s just that she doesn’t want to give you a blow job. You should try understanding where she stands. So don’t insist because even if she does give it to you, it won’t be because she wanted to. If she agrees to do it, don’t force your penis in her throat if she is not ready or doesn’t like it. Chocking her is not really a way of making her feel good.

2. You hold her hands or her head while she is down there

It might turn you on to be in total control but don’t hold her head while she gives you a blow job. Or, you can hold it as long as you don’t try to control her moves. There are sex toys for that purpose and you can move them as you wish, but your partner isn’t one. Let her be in control of what she is doing and also, don’t hold her hands. In this case, it’s not romantic at all and she might not enjoy pleasuring you if she feels constrained in any way. Of course, if you like this stuff, then talk it over before having sex and see if she enjoys it too.

3. You come in her mouth without asking

This is rude and in some cases even disrespectful. Always ask before you come in her mouth. Don’t make up lame excuses like you didn’t have the time to tell her or you didn’t know you were about to come. Some women don’t enjoy having your sperm in their mouth and she won’t enjoy the sex afterwards.

Make sure you have a good finish for both of you

The finish is as important as the sex and the prelude. Both of you need to be satisfied and sometimes it’s not all about coming.

1. You stop before she had her climax and you don’t make up for it

A woman needs to know you care about her pleasure as well, so give your best not to come before she had her share. If you do, don’t roll over and fall asleep. You can continue giving pleasure even after you came and especially if she is still aroused. Leaving her unfinished when she almost came can be frustrating. Could you handle that every time? Imagine you stopping before you ejaculate and then letting the pleasure die in a slow way. Do something about it!

2. You don’t control your ejaculation

Don’t excuse yourself for not being able to control your ejaculation. If you try and practice, you can do it, so you just have to give a damn! No matter what your partner does to you or how she moves, you are the one who can best control your ejaculation – don’t blame it on her. If you ejaculate, make sure you don’t make an unwanted mess. Control yourself not to come on her face or her body is she doesn’t want you to. And if you make a mess, offer to help with the cleaning no matter where it is.

3. You shout in her ears while you come

You are embracing each other as you are about to come and you start making loud sounds. If you are screaming next to her ear you not only risk of making her def (just kidding), but it also distracts her attention from the pleasure. So, if you scream in her ear, she might loose all the accumulated pleasure and not be able to come. The fun is ruined and you were the only one who had fun.

4. You mark your territory

No, not similar to a lion! But you leave her with love marks that she might be embarrassed about the next day. No mature woman goes to work bragging with ‘Look what my wild partner did to me last night’ – only in your fantasies, perhaps. So don’t leave her with marks, especially if they can’t be hidden. You are not a teenager who needs to show himself and to other people that he did actually get some.

5. You don’t bond after having sex

The best bonding that take place between couples is the one that happens after sex. Hug your partner for a few minutes and let the cigarette or the shower wait for a bit. It is proven that certain hormones are released when two people hug after sex and they are the ones making both of you feel comfortable and secure. I think this is quite important so do something about it.

Women like the journey, not only the outcome. Do this often and not once or occasionally, for her birthday or for Christmas. Respect your partner even during sex and make your best to ensure that both of you get what you want out of sex.

Kama sutra is not only about various sexual intercourse positions. It is a treatise on the art of living life, sourcing a good life partner, ensuring that both the partners are happy in marriage etc. The misunderstanding about Kama sutra being primarily a book about various sexual positions only stemmed from the unusual emphasis placed on a specific chapter, which discussed the various facets of sex like positions, biting, kissing, oral sex and other forms of unusual sex. Following versions of this chapter in other releases of Kama sutra went a step further and dotted the book with raunchy illustrations, there by overshadowing other useful and informative chapters in the book.

The western world was exposed to the Kama sutra through the efforts of Sir Richard Burton, who translated the original work of Vatsyayana. More than the translation, it was his attempt to publish his work in an extremely sexually repressive and moralistic Victorian period that was remarkable. This work became very popular in the year 1883 and kept getting pirated and clandestinely printed through the years till 1962, when the first formal publication got released in the UK and United States.

Kama sutra is regarded as a classic to this day due to its ability to discuss basic human emotions like lust, shyness, seduction, rejection and manipulation. In ancient India, this book was one of the three textbooks recommended in the study of human sciences, the other two being Dharma (morality/justice) and Artha (money/success). These three books were a must for every person seeking education and it is clear from this that ancient India accorded a lot of importance to not only sex education but also to the art of sensuality.

Kama sutra recognizes women as a very active participant and promotes the sexuality of women as an integral part of the whole sexual act. Vatsyayana actually devotes two full chapters to women, the sixth chapter to the courtesans and the fourth chapter to wives.

Women’s participation in Kama sutra

The unique aspect of the portrayal of women in Kama sutra is the active role that is assigned to her in the fulfillment of the sex act. She is not the passive partner at the receiving end of a man’s lust. Preliminary love which features the act of embracing the partner shows the women playing the active role on two different occasions. In the first one, she encloses her man totally and offers her inviting lips for a kiss which leads to tremendous sexual excitement in the man. The second instance shows her resting one of her feet on her man’s foot and the other on his thigh, while one of her arms is holding on to his shoulder with the other arm around his back. The posture depicts as if she is about to climb on top of him and shows her as a very active and aggressive participant. It only goes to show the stress that Kama sutra lay on the fact that a woman who enjoys sex by actively participating in foreplay can make the entire experience very thrilling for the man as well.

The Kama sutra presents women not as mere sexual objects, but as personalities with a lot of desire to enjoy sex. One of the other chapters also advocates the need for gentleness in a man when having sex with a virgin.

Kama sutra is therefore a full guide on how to enjoy one of life’s most thrilling and essential acts, while recognizing the desires and wants of women as equal partners in the journey.