I hope you didn’t jump with your reading until this part. This is the middle part and although you might think it’s the most important or the only one that matters, it’s equal to everything else mentioned here. Make sure you do it right and pay attention to the following mistakes that men usually do here.

1. You don’t listen to what she doesn’t like

Perhaps she doesn’t like to be touched in certain places, or she doesn’t like a certain move you make. When you see this or especially if she tells them to you, stop doing them. Even if you enjoy them, listen to what your partner wants and especially to what she doesn’t like. If you don’t, it will only make her frustrated and she will never enjoy having sex with you.

2. You don’t caress her body

You should do it before, during and after sex. A sexual experience is not only about intercourse or grabbing her sensitive areas. The whole body needs to feel your presence and your touch. So make her feel that you enjoy every part of her, not just the ones that contribute to your pleasure. And also, when you’re on top of her, do sustain your weight with your hands, don’t crush her.

3. You make it kinky without asking

Whether we are talking about biting, slapping, scratching, saying dirty words or BDSM, you need to make sure that your partner is into it before you march right in. If not, she will reject you and you might even shock her, and this will damage your future sex sessions – if there will be any. Have a talk before you want to try new things or suggest them in a subtle manner and see how she reacts. But don’t think she said ‘no’ just because she is afraid of trying new things. No means No!

Focus on the penetration

You should be aware of some things before you penetrate her. She might not want it or you might not be doing it right. Also, certain things might be out of reach for you.

1. You go in before knowing that she wants you to

If you had a good foreplay it doesn’t necessarily mean she wants you to penetrate her. Perhaps she was just looking for some pleasure without having sex. If you are just dating, this is quite something you need to keep in mind. But even if you were together for quite a while, if she is not ready to be penetrated then she won’t enjoy it.

2. You can’t find the entrance

You are basically lost. This happens even if you have experience with sex, and when it does, admit it and don’t peck around her vagina. It will make you look silly and even hurt her. After you’ve tried it a couple of times with no success, ask her to give you a hand, to insert the penis herself. This is a far more better option then both of you getting frustrated.

3. You do a routine of accidental anal

You know it didn’t get there by accident so don’t make excuses for penetrating her back door. If she agrees to it, then you should go ahead, but don’t do it against her will. There is a reason why she doesn’t want to do it so respect that. And no matter what penetration we are talking about, use lube if necessary, the one that is bought in the stores and not something else.

4. You can’t tell the difference between pleasure and pain sounds

Perhaps the positions you try during sex are not comfortable for her or they are hurting her. Maybe your way of penetration is giving her pain. If you feel she is not enjoying herself or you are hurting her, stop it. You should be able to make the difference between pleasure and pain sounds.