1. You try to force her head down there

You started the foreplay and while she’s kissing you on your mouth, neck, chest and stomach, your hand is on her head, trying to push her down there. It’s not quite a turn on to be forced to do something. If you see that she resist against your shy push, don’t insist because it’s not that she didn’t get the hint, it’s just that she doesn’t want to give you a blow job. You should try understanding where she stands. So don’t insist because even if she does give it to you, it won’t be because she wanted to. If she agrees to do it, don’t force your penis in her throat if she is not ready or doesn’t like it. Chocking her is not really a way of making her feel good.

2. You hold her hands or her head while she is down there

It might turn you on to be in total control but don’t hold her head while she gives you a blow job. Or, you can hold it as long as you don’t try to control her moves. There are sex toys for that purpose and you can move them as you wish, but your partner isn’t one. Let her be in control of what she is doing and also, don’t hold her hands. In this case, it’s not romantic at all and she might not enjoy pleasuring you if she feels constrained in any way. Of course, if you like this stuff, then talk it over before having sex and see if she enjoys it too.

3. You come in her mouth without asking

This is rude and in some cases even disrespectful. Always ask before you come in her mouth. Don’t make up lame excuses like you didn’t have the time to tell her or you didn’t know you were about to come. Some women don’t enjoy having your sperm in their mouth and she won’t enjoy the sex afterwards.

Make sure you have a good finish for both of you

The finish is as important as the sex and the prelude. Both of you need to be satisfied and sometimes it’s not all about coming.

1. You stop before she had her climax and you don’t make up for it

A woman needs to know you care about her pleasure as well, so give your best not to come before she had her share. If you do, don’t roll over and fall asleep. You can continue giving pleasure even after you came and especially if she is still aroused. Leaving her unfinished when she almost came can be frustrating. Could you handle that every time? Imagine you stopping before you ejaculate and then letting the pleasure die in a slow way. Do something about it!

2. You don’t control your ejaculation

Don’t excuse yourself for not being able to control your ejaculation. If you try and practice, you can do it, so you just have to give a damn! No matter what your partner does to you or how she moves, you are the one who can best control your ejaculation – don’t blame it on her. If you ejaculate, make sure you don’t make an unwanted mess. Control yourself not to come on her face or her body is she doesn’t want you to. And if you make a mess, offer to help with the cleaning no matter where it is.

3. You shout in her ears while you come

You are embracing each other as you are about to come and you start making loud sounds. If you are screaming next to her ear you not only risk of making her def (just kidding), but it also distracts her attention from the pleasure. So, if you scream in her ear, she might loose all the accumulated pleasure and not be able to come. The fun is ruined and you were the only one who had fun.

4. You mark your territory

No, not similar to a lion! But you leave her with love marks that she might be embarrassed about the next day. No mature woman goes to work bragging with ‘Look what my wild partner did to me last night’ – only in your fantasies, perhaps. So don’t leave her with marks, especially if they can’t be hidden. You are not a teenager who needs to show himself and to other people that he did actually get some.

5. You don’t bond after having sex

The best bonding that take place between couples is the one that happens after sex. Hug your partner for a few minutes and let the cigarette or the shower wait for a bit. It is proven that certain hormones are released when two people hug after sex and they are the ones making both of you feel comfortable and secure. I think this is quite important so do something about it.

Women like the journey, not only the outcome. Do this often and not once or occasionally, for her birthday or for Christmas. Respect your partner even during sex and make your best to ensure that both of you get what you want out of sex.

1. You expect her to do everything you want

You are different people and you are entitled to have different tastes when it comes to sex as well. The right thing to do is to enjoy the common pleasures and not focus on pushing you way into someone else’s idea of fun. You shouldn’t expect you partner to do everything you ask her to, or to like whatever turns you on. For instance, no matter how much you like doing anal, if she doesn’t enjoy it you shouldn’t push her towards doing it, or try to emotionally black-mail her.

2. You want to bring porn into your sex life

You put on a porn movie while you’re having sex without asking her first, thinking that she’ll enjoy it or wouldn’t mind. You are being insensitive and you might be ruining her mood. Just think, if your partner would stare at a porn movie while you are giving your best, wouldn’t that make you feel like you are not that important for the moment? Make sure your partner enjoy the same tings as you do before proposing porn. Also, don’t expect your sex life to be similar to porn movies. It might happen once or twice, but porn movies do not reflect the reality of what happens in the bedroom. So don’t have high standards inspired by porn when you have sex.

3. You expect her to come when you give your best

Even when you are offering your best moves or putting a real effort into making her come, it might not happen. Do these things without aiming for her climax, because otherwise she’ll see that you’re only doing it to make her come and she’ll feel pressured and then unable to feel pleasure. Let her come at her time and don’t insist on it.

Talking about your sex life and the effort related to it

You need at least two people for the sexual intercourse to take place and both of them should take some active part in it. But sometimes the preferences differ and you get the wrong message. Sex should be a great experience or the both of you and it shouldn’t be a routine act.

1. You are making her do the whole work or criticizing for not doing any

You just sit back and relax, thinking it’s her job to satisfy you. You are not a king who needs a sex slave to make him feel good! You need to show her that you do care about satisfying her. Also, don’t criticize her for not doing anything. Not all women are loose in bed and some prefer even standing still while you’re in total control. Criticizing will only make her frustrated and she’ll never be able to come… and it can damage her sex life even with her future boyfriends. You need to talk to see where both of you stand, and make a compromise. If both of you like being passive or aggressive, you can take turns.

2. You don’t spice up your sex life

You do the same number every time. If you are not satisfied with it and neither is your partner, then why not change something? If you do the same things you can’t expect a different result. So talk about trying new things that you both enjoy or would like to experiment and don’t make sex another routine in your life. Think of it this way: where is the excitement of looking forward to sex when you already know in detail what is going to happen?

3. You have sex while you are drunk

It’s not quite a good idea to have sex when you or both of you are excessively drunk. It might lead to unwanted pregnancy but also, it can be a bad experience. When you are drunk you don’t really judge things clearly and your balance is not quite at its best. So you risk hurting yourself and your partner in both of your sensitive areas. If you’re drunk and she’s not, then it’s going to be fun just for you. It might be that you last longer after several beers, but it’s not about the quantity of sex, it’s about the quality. It should be a bonding experience with both of you getting what you want, not just a result of a drunk night.

1. You don’t listen to what she doesn’t like

Perhaps she doesn’t like to be touched in certain places, or she doesn’t like a certain move you make. When you see this or especially if she tells them to you, stop doing them. Even if you enjoy them, listen to what your partner wants and especially to what she doesn’t like. If you don’t, it will only make her frustrated and she will never enjoy having sex with you.

2. You don’t caress her body

You should do it before, during and after sex. A sexual experience is not only about intercourse or grabbing her sensitive areas. The whole body needs to feel your presence and your touch. So make her feel that you enjoy every part of her, not just the ones that contribute to your pleasure. And also, when you’re on top of her, do sustain your weight with your hands, don’t crush her.

3. You make it kinky without asking

Whether we are talking about biting, slapping, scratching, saying dirty words or BDSM, you need to make sure that your partner is into it before you march right in. If not, she will reject you and you might even shock her, and this will damage your future sex sessions – if there will be any. Have a talk before you want to try new things or suggest them in a subtle manner and see how she reacts. But don’t think she said ‘no’ just because she is afraid of trying new things. No means No!

Focus on the penetration

You should be aware of some things before you penetrate her. She might not want it or you might not be doing it right. Also, certain things might be out of reach for you.

1. You go in before knowing that she wants you to

If you had a good foreplay it doesn’t necessarily mean she wants you to penetrate her. Perhaps she was just looking for some pleasure without having sex. If you are just dating, this is quite something you need to keep in mind. But even if you were together for quite a while, if she is not ready to be penetrated then she won’t enjoy it.

2. You can’t find the entrance

You are basically lost. This happens even if you have experience with sex, and when it does, admit it and don’t peck around her vagina. It will make you look silly and even hurt her. After you’ve tried it a couple of times with no success, ask her to give you a hand, to insert the penis herself. This is a far more better option then both of you getting frustrated.

3. You do a routine of accidental anal

You know it didn’t get there by accident so don’t make excuses for penetrating her back door. If she agrees to it, then you should go ahead, but don’t do it against her will. There is a reason why she doesn’t want to do it so respect that. And no matter what penetration we are talking about, use lube if necessary, the one that is bought in the stores and not something else.

4. You can’t tell the difference between pleasure and pain sounds

Perhaps the positions you try during sex are not comfortable for her or they are hurting her. Maybe your way of penetration is giving her pain. If you feel she is not enjoying herself or you are hurting her, stop it. You should be able to make the difference between pleasure and pain sounds.

1. You don’t wash your intimate parts before sex

Hygiene is quite important, especially before doing sex. You need to pay special attention to your intimate area because it can cause some undesired reactions. In other words, how can you expect her to go down on you if you didn’t wash it before, and you came from work ready to have sex? Even if she does it, she’ll have second thoughts next time you jump into sex without washing… and after a few times, she’ll just say no!

2. You don’t take your sock off

Are you in a hurry? It might not seem important, but taking of your sock makes a huge difference to the quality of sex. First of all, wearing sock during sex will make her think you are just in for your pleasure, for coming and not for staying. Then, you’ll look like a teenager who just got lucky one time and want to take advantage before it all goes away. How would you feel is she worn sock while you’re having sex?

3. You don’t give her oral sex from different reasons

She is either unshaved – because she forget or didn’t want to – or you don’t think she wants it. Every woman want to have you going down on them, so don’t make excuses for not doing it. If you got some then she deserves it as well, but don’t make it seem like you only gave her one because you had to. That would be a major turn off. And when you give oral pleasure, don’t just do it for 3-5 seconds to make her see you were well intended. Do it until she finishes or until you see she became aroused.

1. You don’t do much kissing or you’re not quite a good kisser

It doesn’t matter how good your sexual skills are or how great your moves are, kissing is an important part of having sex. So a good foreplay should always start with a session of intense kissing that developed from an innocent one. Don’t go marching in like the aliens are about to invade Earth. Take your time and kiss your partner, and do it during sex as well. A kiss has the magical power of being romantic, sexy, and arousing you.

2. You go straight for her breasts and/or vagina

There are some women who are turned on by a direct approach, but there are few of them. So unless your partner tells you she wants it straight, don’t grab her intimate parts before she is ready. Do it when you feel she began to be aroused, or if you are dating, make sure she wants you to do it. It will make her feel uncomfortable to have you touching her intimate parts before she is ready, and the sex will not go well for her.

3. You are not delicate with her sensitive areas

If an area is sensitive it means it’s not only going to make her feel good, but it will also indispose her if you can’t be delicate. If she is aroused, then her sensitive areas are going to hurt if you grab them carelessly. These sensitive areas are usually the nipples and the clit, but there can be some exceptions, so make sure you know what your partner’s sensitive areas are. If she has sensible nipples, don’t make her feel like she is breast-feeding a baby: be considerate and don’t jump on them like you never seen a pair before.

4. You don’t care much about what she enjoys

Foreplay is successful if your partner is aroused, and to do that, you need to play by her rules. In other words, you need to know what turns her on. So ask her or find out in a subtle way, and try to remember them before and during sex. Of course, she will still have sex with you even if you don’t care for her turn-ons, but it will not be an experience worth mentioning – and you risk or making her frustrated and searching for pleasures somewhere else. Even if they don’t manage to come, the experience will still be amazing if you do the things she likes.

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With our discounted price for Very Naughty Dates Membership, this leaves you with more money to spend at the summer sales, which tend to hit stores in July. Don’t forget about the online sales too, for example Travelodge and Premier Inn, so you and your playmate can make the most of some naughty fun together behind closed doors!

Now that the days are getting warmer and the nights are getting hotter, July is the perfect time for you and your Very Naughty Dates girl to get a bit adventurous and start enjoying some outdoor naughtiness, if you haven’t been doing so already of course! Our advice? Be discreet and don’t go breaking any laws.

Position Of The Month – Folder Deckchair

Forget buckets & spades this summer, think deckchairs! Your Very Naughty Dates playmate should lay on her back and pivot her hips so that her legs are on your shoulders, as you enter from a kneeling position while supporting some of her weight on your legs. A favourite of many men because of the sense of power that comes from ‘folding’ their partner, although this position definitely doesn’t leave the girl out – when you lean on her legs, it improves the angle of penetration to better target the g-spot.

National Orgasm Day- Saturday 31st July

Bad news guys – Recent reports claim that 75% of women fake orgasms, mainly due to lack of clitoral and G-spot stimulation. Let’s change these statistics and make sure that by the time National Orgasm Day comes, all of our sexy females on Very Naughty Dates will be coming too! (And not just the once).

Not being romantic in day to day life

I’m sure you know that romance shouldn’t happen just during sex, or when you want to get some. It’s important that you give her attention and tenderness on a regular basis because it will make a huge difference in your sex life, and you’ll notice it.

1. You are having sex for all the wrong reasons

When you want to have sex you should do it because you are aroused, because you’re in the moment and your partner shares the same feelings. Don’t do it because it’s weekend and you should have some sexual intimacy at least once a week. Having sex for the sake of routine it’s not healthy for neither of you. Also, don’t have sex to release the tension you got from work or worst, to avoid the discussion of some issue or to postpone it. Some men suddenly become sensual when their partner is telling them something they don’t want to hear. Moreover, don’t do it when you’re about to break up in hope that it will make everything OK.

2. You are not paying her attention except for when you have sex

If you don’t want any now, why should you bother to give her your attention, right? That will send out the message that you only need her for sex, and trust me, even if she accepts having sex with you, she will not enjoy it. Sooner or later she’ll put and end to it. So if you’re not living together, take her out from time to time without ending the night with sex or ask her to come over and do an activity together besides sex. If you live together, don’t spend all day at the computer or doing something else, ignoring her, and becoming tender only in the night to get laid.

3. You are being sensual and flattering only before sex

You should make her feel special everyday, not just before getting some. Caress her from time to time when having breakfast, for example, without any reason and tell her she is beautiful when she washes her face in the morning. You shouldn’t be like a dog and expect your treats for every nice gesture you make. And appreciate her for who she is and all the little things she makes for the both of you.

To ensure you and your Very Naughty Dates playmate both have an enjoyable June, we’ve included some hot tips to get you as much naughty action as possible for this summer.

Football V Female

We know you must be looking forward to the football kicking off in South Africa this month, but don’t let the football ruin your sex life! Make sure you burn off all those beers at the gym to stay fit for your Very Naughty Dates playmate and, more importantly, don’t spend all your time glued to the telly… Unless you’re logged into Very Naughty Dates at the same time, checking out our hot new females!

Giddy up

As well as bluer skies and warmer weather, the month of June also brings plenty of horse racing, for example The 40th Macmillan Charity Day (York) on 11th & 12th, and Royal Ascot (Ascot, Berkshire) on 15th-19th. Why not arrange a day at the races with your Very Naughty Dates playmate, enjoy the Pimm’s, show off your betting skills, then carry on the fun at a hotel nearby…?

Filthy Festival Fun

Like the thought of some open-air action? There’s a whole variety of festivals this June; Download takes places on 11th-13th June in Derby, at the same time as the Isle of Wight Festival, then Somerset hosts Glastonbury Festival later in the month on 23rd-27th June. Find your Very Naughty Dates playmate, book some tickets, grab a tent and let the alfresco action begin!

Position of the month – The June G-Spot Jiggy

This is based on the well-loved ‘Doggy Style’ position, but with a bit more attention on her G-spot. Have her on all fours as you kneel behind her, penetrating her from behind, and grabbing her bum for balance. Instead of the usual ‘in and out’ thrusting, try moving your hips in slow, deep circular motion, really stroking her G-spot. This simple position is sexually fulfilling for both of you AND it can be performed in a variety of summer spots, for example a festival tent!

Summer solstice – Monday 21st June

This marks the longest day of the year and the first day of summer, so what better time to really turn up the heat and start planning some fun in the sun with your Very Naughty Dates playmate?

Wimbledon Babes – Monday 21st June Onwards

You don’t need to be a tennis fan to enjoy watching those scantily-clad female tennis players jumping, sweating and groaning their way around the court. Or, you and your Very Naughty Dates playmate could always bring some strawberries and cream to the bedroom to really spice up the Wimbledon season.

Whatever you end up doing this month, we hope you have a very enjoyable June, filled with lots of hot action!

When I got home I went straight for the shower. I stripped of my clothes, leaving them on the floor. I was thinking about bringing a dildo with me, but I couldn’t find one. I’m a messy person and when I masturbate I tend to leave my toys at the crime scene… so I didn’t bother searching the entire apartment. The shower and my fingers would have to do for now.

I like teasing myself. I start by pouring water on my nipples… first worm water to make them soft… then cold water to harden them… and I repeat it until I’m wheat down there… without any showering. When my nipples start to hurt, I take the shower down there to clean myself. I change the temperature of the water again… just as a tease… and I increase and decrease the intensity. First I push it to the maximum, because I like a strong start, and as I feel I’m about to come, I lower the pressure to make it last longer. Then I take my body gel and start rubbing my whole body. It feels good. After that I wash it all of, except down there, and I introduce 2 fingers in my pussy, rubbing my clit with my thumb. I do that until I come.

After I took the shower I felt relaxed. I had the urge for a pizza, so I ordered one. Ten minutes later, I got a call to confirm the address. The man at the end of the line asked me if I’m a Miss or a Madame, so I though about playing with him… just a bit.

‘I’m whatever you want me to be’ I said.

He didn’t know what to answer, so I told him he had a sexy voice. He hung up. Five minutes later, he called me again.

‘I’m on my break now, if you want to talk to me.’

‘Hm… that depends. Do you have a big cock?’

‘I have a big and strong one, just for you.’

‘Well, I might put it in my mouth then. Would you like me to?’

‘Oh, I can’t believe this is happening…’

‘Then don’t. Put your hand on your cock. Rub it for me and tell me how it feels.’

‘Hm, I want to fuck you so bad.’

‘Well, I’m not wearing anything, so I’m ready for a fuck. My nipples are hard and my pussy is all wheat. Fuck me hard!’

I heard the sound of a satisfied men and I hung. I wasn’t sure if he came or not, but I didn’t care. I just wanted to tease someone. I hope he’s not going to be the one delivering the pizza… I might feel temped to actually fuck him…

If you are a basic member of Very Naughty or yet to signup in the first place, just to let you know that on Bank Holiday Monday the 31st, you will be able to chat with other members free of charge.

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That’s reading AND sending to all those sexy ladies you’ve had your eye on.

To take advantage of this very exciting treat, all you have to do is login to your account on MONDAY 31st MAY… Get chatting and get meeting for some naughty fun!

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