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4.      It is not all about genitals

Human body has a wide variety of nerve endings. Trying to simulate other body parts can change the orgasm’s intensity. Experiment with different parts, notice where you fell better being touched or licked, change the intensity and go over again with other sweet spots. Orgasm may come from places you would not expect, just pay attention to whole body, not only genitals.

5.      Get your blood pumping

Find some activities that get you both thrilled. Go for a bungee jump or get parachuted, do something together that will release the special chemicals in your body for a tremendous sex act when you reach your bedroom.

6.      Be naughty even before you are together

If your partner is to reach home late after some busy day at the office, trying to get a little into an early foreplay will sure rush the things, therefore expect when he reaches home to skip dinner and jump to bed with you. Sending a kinky e-mail or text message makes blood pumping into partner’s heart and knowing what is expecting him home will start the party earlier.

7.      Push your sweet spots and discover yourself

Masturbation is not something abnormal, masturbation is a must for knowing better your body. What comes next is an easier lesson to teach your lover.

8.      Experiment sex toys

Buying a vibrator for example could become a tricky thing for a shy person, however, the Internet is crawling with online sex shops, just put an order and have it shipped at your door. Sex toys are great when alone, experimenting with yourself and seeing what suits you or not.

Getting to know each other deeper and allowing your partner to know what you love in bed or you dislike will soon make your orgasms shivering and long lasting, while with time going by you are both aware of your sweet spots that take you up in the sky.

Having sex with you partner can be something extraordinary, however, reaching those orgasms you are both searching for can become a pain. Sure, the more you get in touch with your body and your partner, the more chances of better ones rise up, while as time goes by orgasms can get better and better. Try to follow these tips and put your bodies on the move, is time for some up in the sky orgasms!

1.      Play with your breath

Watch your breathing while you are having a tremendous sex act. Changing the way you breathe when you are approaching an orgasm can get you on higher grounds. If you notice yourself holding the breath, try for example to change it to shorter and quicker rounds. Try to adjust the pattern and take a tandem breath to reaching the target point together.

2.      Fantasies becoming reality

Try from time to time to put in practice what you are sometimes dreaming about. Do you like being tied in bed or maybe playing a role? Follow your creativity, share it with your partner and use fantasies to have better orgasms.

3.      Guide your partner

Finding the spots for high intensity pleasure can sometimes become a pain while people usually have different sweet spots located all over their bodies. Some are into upper parts of their body, other on their lower parts and so on. Therefore, becoming an “oral guide” for your partner’s “discovery travel” in bed, at least when you are on your relationship’s first steps can become worthy later while he will already know where to find those spots that give you the shivers.

So what is all the fuss about?

The ruling of the French court was surprising and made everybody in France sit up and take notice of the fact that a court can give a judgment, just based on the presence or absence of the hymen and that was deemed as the only proof of a woman’s chastity. It brought to focus the existing situation even in these supposedly modern times and the kind of beliefs prevalent in certain cultures with regard to premarital sex and virginity.

According to a female student, who has been in the US since the last decade, the American culture is refreshingly unique and does not frown upon the fact that she engaged in a sexual relationship with a fellow student whom she loved. Though her family was unaware of this fact, she had decided that since that was the guy she would be eventually marrying; she would have no problems having sex with him. Ultimately though, they broke up and since her family has now fixed up her marriage with somebody from Morocco, she has the onerous task of surgically restoring her hymen just to prove that she is yet a virgin. Women have realised that the earlier technique of fooling a man into believing that he had deflowered a virgin by placing some drops of blood on the nuptial sheets or by artificially making it difficult for the man to penetrate by using the pubic hair to tie a couple of knots is no longer feasible or practical and therefore they have no qualms about undergoing the necessary surgery, if they have been promiscuous before marriage. Many such Muslim women opt for this surgery providing fictitious names and addresses and take the trouble of travelling long distances to get this done so that they are able to present them selves as pure virgins to their families and prospective husbands, even though the procedure is a costly one ranging  between $400 to $1000.

How is the surgery actually done?

The surgery involves placing a duplicate hymen at the vaginal canal entrance and takes about ten minutes to perform. The cost can vary based on the kind of surgical procedure wanted by the patient as some may only ask to stitch the hymen remnants together, which is known as hymenorraphy and others may want the surgeon to insert a capsule made out of gelatin and filled with a liquid resembling blood, which would break upon penetration conveying the impression that the hymen has torn during intercourse. Some others may demand the construction of a new hymen making use of surrounding tissues taken from the wall of the vagina.

Doctors however admit that despite hymenorraphy being taught in medical schools, the operation can be a risky one and it needs expertise to do it right. This procedure was initially done by a prominent American doctor, who took the trouble of training other doctors in his group. Patients are told to keep away from sex and any physical activity for about two and a half months to ensure total healing of the wound. The cost of the surgery varies from $1000 to $2000 in the United States and is lesser at $700 in nations promoting medical tourism. There are other countries such as Korea and China which offer a discount of as much as 50% to students and women who want to go for such a surgery.

So what is the conclusion…?

It is ironical and sad that when the odds are stacked against you in terms of your family not liking the fact that you are not a virgin and you could lose out on a wealthy husband just because of that tissue called hymen not being there, you have to spend money, effort and time to actually construct something and ensure that nobody becomes aware about it. You can even request the surgeon to obliterate any trace of documentation of the surgery and nobody is any wiser about it.

So are such surgeries done only by women who wish to present themselves as virgins?

The answer is a resounding no as many modern married women belonging to the Muslim religion go through the process of hymen repair as a gift offering to their husbands after some years of marriage. This is the beautification or the artificial tightening of the vaginal canal preferred by married women in their late thirties and early forties and they see it as a second honeymoon opportunity gift to be presented to their husbands.

This beautification of the vagina – what is it actually?

It is exactly that. Surgeons actually perform cosmetic surgery by bleaching, tightening and firming up the vaginal muscles to make it look as beautiful as possible. Some doctors decrease the labia size for women who prefer such a thing and do not mind paying a heavy amount for the process. Many women do not mind going through such a revirginisation process many years after marriage as they want to bring back the sexual excitement and oomph back into their married lives. So processes such as labioplasty, vaginal reconstruction and hymenoplasty are just some of the cosmetic surgeries they are willing to undergo. These surgical processes have become very popular and are now advertised as recreational surgery processes. Costs have been coming down over the years and with some countries like Thailand, Hong Kong and China packaging it attractively, married couples do not mind taking them as such package offerings include travel, accommodation, surgery and honeymoon.

Will this pass off as just another novel idea or will it continue?

This can be best perceived as a reflection of the desperation of a woman who wish to please their family and want to put on a false show of their chastity and is also a comment on the rather myopic view taken by certain cultures towards the fairer sex.

In the case of women who have more than one child and face loosening of their vaginal walls and other urinary related problems such as urinary incontinence, the operation can be a very useful one and in fact may also be recommended for good pelvic health. However, to just put up a front for the sake of a marriage and to project something untrue is something that seems unwarranted, but who are we to comment as it is purely a personal decision of the woman in question and the money she wants to spend.

It seems that this process of beautification of the vagina will continue and women will increasingly go for it as an important cosmetic expense to be done to enable them bring back the spark in their sexual life.

Fetish

To get a full picture of the fetish article, you need to start from the fetish dating page on the main website.

Sexual fetish can be classified as under:

a) Those with a desire for a partner with big body parts or sexual stimuli like oral sex or undergarments.
b) Those with a stronger craving for specific kinds of sex partners or stimuli, but are able to accomplish the sex act even in their absence.
c) Persons in this category cannot enjoy the sex act without the presence of specific stimuli and it is only due to their presence that they experience sexual arousal. They may not even hesitate to commit burglary to achieve their objective and stand the risk of getting convicted in the pursuit of such sexual pleasure.
d) These belong to an advanced level of sexual fetishism where the object or body part is considered more important than the partner and they can get sexually aroused by just looking and touching that object.
e) This is another deviant form of sexual fetishism wherein the person derives sexual gratification through acquiring a particular body part of his partner and may even go to the extent of killing people to mutilate the body and take the organ of choice.
Though sexual fetishism is not considered as objectionable as long as it is within the comfort levels of the people concerned, treatment to get out of it is recommended if the condition begins to threaten the social life or job. The treatment is in the form of cognitive therapy and psychoanalysis and they can be complemented through other types of traditional treatments as well.
The cognitive therapy seeks to change the mental make up of the person without trying to do too much analysis of the condition. A popular method is to create aversion for the object of fetish in the individual so that he begins to outlive his craze for that particular object and does not require it as a stimulus for sexual arousal.
Psychoanalysis delves into the subconscious of the individual to ascertain the trigger that has caused this condition and is practiced by lulling the patient into an unconscious state and permitting him to rationally identify the problem.
Medication in the form of production or restriction of certain hormones is another manner in which the person is cured of this disorder. Some psychiatric drugs are also used to create a difference in the way the person responds to sexual stimulation.
The internet is abounding with various kinds of sexual fetishes such as female bondage, sadomasochism, female domination, exhibitionism, foot fetish and many more.

Here is a brief look at some of them:

a) Female bondage

I know of a friend who has had the unique pleasure of getting head not only on numerous occasions but also from a variety of women. It is one thing to experience head from a regular companion or partner and quite another getting this privilege administered to you by different women of various nationalities and color. He therefore has assumed responsibility and taken the lead to let us know more about the importance of this skill, as he calls it and is of the definite opinion that girls must perfect this skill to make sure they hold on to their partners and make a success of their married life. Knowing men, that still is not going to stop them from looking out for greener pastures but at least he believes that the woman will have some control over her partner. Every man wants sexual pleasure and the sensations that he experiences with oral sex performed expertly by a woman is the ultimate thing for him.
Sadly, many women do not understand this need and also feel shy about asking for feedback or advice on how to perform it better. Some of them are under the impression that they are already doing such a good job that they need not bother and some others do not want to try it due to various reasons of squeamishness and hygiene.
It may sound odd but a good oral sex between partners is crucial to sex life and a successful marriage relationship. A good blowjob or cunnilingus performed on a man and woman can almost guarantee a successful relationship. You only need to be aware of how to perform good oral sex from people who have actually administered and experienced this pleasure, rather than just picking up half baked information from books and porn movies.
To start with, he recommends two simple basic tips that he feels will make a huge difference in the performance of oral sex.
a) Stop the process of thinking something else while giving head. Very often women tend to lapse into some other thought while performing oral sex and this dilutes the feeling and intensity they had initially. This proves to be a dampener and the male loses his erection. Remember, the mind plays a very important role in sending the right signals to the sexual organs and any deviation is bound to affect the flow of blood to these organs. Women often wonder as to why the man has not ejaculated within a couple of minutes. This is absolutely detrimental to their performance. They should remain involved in the activity and not let their mind wander.
b) Display passion and show that you are enjoying having your partner’s penis in your mouth. If you feel odd about it, then at least act as if you are enjoying the process. You do not know what a great turn on this has on the man and he will be able to hold his erection for a much longer time. When he sees the passion and seductive look in your eyes, he is also likely to ejaculate and that will be a great feat that you would have achieved.
Giving proper head is a skill that you need to master with experience. It need not be perfect the first time, but the fact that you are game for it is itself a great relief and source of great excitement for your partner. You will immediately notice the way he treats you after an episode of oral sex. You will be able to control him and get much more of his attention and that is immensely beneficial for your relationship.

Conventional wisdom can be quite boring and wrong for example, a professor no less once told the Wright brothers, the inventor of aeroplanes that a machine heavier than air can not fly so they brothers should stop this ridiculous idea of inventing and aeroplane. Another wrong one was the teacher who to young Albert Einstein that he will not amount to anything in likes…………….. fast forward to today.

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Good sex often forms the basis for a successful relationship between a man and a woman. In addition to love and respect for each other, it is the sexual chemistry that will equally determine the well being of a relationship. It is important to have a fulfilling sex life and any shortcoming in this will immediately reflect poorly and negatively in a relationship.
Just as a man wants the ultimate in sexual satisfaction, the woman also craves for the same. It is only that she may not be so vocal about it. Men by virtue of their basic nature of being flirts and always on the look out for an easy lay often get their desires fulfilled by having sexual relationships outside of marriage and by cheating on their partners. The same is not so common as far as the woman is concerned. She is more likely to keep her frustration within her and will think a number of times before taking that step and attempting to enjoy sexual gratification by cheating on her partner.
You can make your partner crave for your touch and provide her with total sexual satisfaction. She can experience multiple orgasms and will always want you near her to keep providing her with such enjoyment. You might even find it difficult to fulfil her ever increasing need for sex as she would want the joys that you gave her to persist through frequent sexual contact.
By following the 4 tips given below, you will be able to make your partner clamour for more and more sex and she will not even think of looking out.
a) Talk dirty to her
It is a fact that dirty sexual talk can help greatly in arousing passions and you can do this very effectively with her by taking the lead. Tell her how you would like to make love to her, praise the size of her boobs and ass and very soon you will have her panting for sex. You must also give her the opportunity to vent her feelings and you will be surprised at your own reaction when she starts talking dirty. Your cock will immediately want to enter her and that is going to lead to very healthy and satisfying sex for both of you.
b) Use foreplay
While talking to her, use your lips and tongue to lick her ears and neck. These are very sensitive and highly erogenous spots in a woman’s body and are sure to get her heated up sufficiently.
c) Pay attention to her breasts
This is another area where most women experience the most pleasure. Make sure you caress and lick her nipples. You will notice that the nipples become hard and erect and that signifies she is ready for sex and is very excited.

d) Stimulate her clitoris
You can do this by moving one of your hands to her pelvic region and moving them over her cunt. You can also slowly introduce one of your fingers to stimulate her clit and can be rest assured that she will soon have a mind blowing orgasm.
It is unfortunate that most men do not indulge in enough foreplay and want to have their own sexual need satisfied. Stimulating your partner in the manner mentioned above will guarantee a satisfying sex life for you and your partner.