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11-16-2009, 04:52 PM #1Senior Member
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Meeting with parents: a difficult step for any couple
Like many people around you, you worked hard to be who you are. But now, even if longer than in life, you feel happy with your results and what you got, personally and professionally. So why hesitate to present your friend, your parents, although it's long enough to say you have a relationship with him?
You think you will judge according to your parents?
Even if your relationship is a natural, you fear that your friend you could look with different eyes once you should meet my parents. If you have such thoughts, behind them is a sense of inferiority to the place where provii on parents' social status or training. Wait quiet with yourself and see where I come all this, and resettles them respect for you and your family face. You know who you are and do not need anything from outside to confirm this. If your friend is pretentious, perhaps it's time to have a discussion about how the superficiality of this relationship makes you insecure, because you love so much that you want to be what he thinks it's great, not what you . If you believe in what you say, you win not only a lover but a friend who I respect you. Just as you are.
Never trust you or the relationship they have
When you want everything to be good, maybe you tend to try to control things, to make sure that everything comes out as you want. In this case, such a meeting can make more unexpected, especially if you know your friend can say things that are not pleasing your parents or vice versa, and this will automatically result in explanatory reproaches or even questions. If you have such emotions, perhaps you're a girl who has not yet gained independence and it's time to do it.
Your past is not enough "good"?
Do not trust your parents will know when to shut the case and to refrain from certain comments on your past. If you think that, then all of you good to go back to see why it considers that your past is not enough "good" for the relationship they have. Seeing what you want to hide or that you fear that you might find one you realize that part of you is hidden from your partner. Are you sure feel good to hide for a lifetime? On the other hand, the more you learn quickly, the more you will relax more quickly.
Your parents live with the image of former friend
He was the "golden boy" of yours that were understood, can even now speak, and live with hope that you reconciled at some point. Because of this, any guy is an outsider who has little chance of being liked. In this case, it's good to have an open discussion with your parents and make them accept the fact that what is good for them may not right for you. You made a choice and you assume its consequences, asking them to be with you on the path you have chosen to go. A few words are enough to bring your parents "on track", because they are easy to remember who their child.
Courage, therefore. With little trust in you and solve problems that are more in you than outside, maybe you're ready to go to the next level.