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01-04-2010, 01:46 PM
- Seek help early. Most couples wait on average six years until he decide to seek help for marital problems. This means that many couples live their misery too long.
- Express your feelings. Couples who avoid to express someone and anger, when you get to talk about it, are most happy.
- Tame your "beginning". The arguments they bring to start a discussion may cause a fight just because of tuna or a simple brawler contemptuous or critical remark.
- Accept that you are influenced (a). A marriage can take longer if the husband will accept to be influenced by the wife. If a woman says, "you have to work Thursday night? Mother to come to a weekend and I need your help for preparation, and if the husband responds:" I have other plans and I cannot change them ", he triggered a point nerve in their marriage. The ability of a husband to persuade his wife (faster than vice versa) is very important because, experts say, women are already prepared to accept the influence of man and a true partner should realize when it is necessary and him to do the same.
- You need to have a high standard. Happy couples have high standards one another immediately after marriage. The most successful couples are those who, since when are newlyweds, refused to accept hurtful behavior one another. The more you tolerate less misconduct of the other since the early relationship with both your marriage will be happier.
- Learn to fix the situation and get an argument. Successful couples know how to bring a claim. Happy couples know how to fix a situation before a discussion in contradiction to all out of control. To succeed in such a work should: change the topic of all things irrelevant, use your humor, your partner dezmierzi with a caring remark ( "I understand that this is very difficult for you", clarifies that have common interests (that is our problem), giving a step back (in marriage, as in the martial arts of Aikido, you must surrender to win, and in general, offering signs of appreciation for your partner and his feelings). If an argument gets too ardent , take a break for 20 minutes and put your agreement to resume the discussion when you are both calm.
- Concentrate on good part of things. In a happy marriage, couples do their compliments many times: one another or towards their relationship ( "we had so well", as opposed to blame (I never laughed together). A good marriage must have a positive climate.
- Express your feelings. Couples who avoid to express someone and anger, when you get to talk about it, are most happy.
- Tame your "beginning". The arguments they bring to start a discussion may cause a fight just because of tuna or a simple brawler contemptuous or critical remark.
- Accept that you are influenced (a). A marriage can take longer if the husband will accept to be influenced by the wife. If a woman says, "you have to work Thursday night? Mother to come to a weekend and I need your help for preparation, and if the husband responds:" I have other plans and I cannot change them ", he triggered a point nerve in their marriage. The ability of a husband to persuade his wife (faster than vice versa) is very important because, experts say, women are already prepared to accept the influence of man and a true partner should realize when it is necessary and him to do the same.
- You need to have a high standard. Happy couples have high standards one another immediately after marriage. The most successful couples are those who, since when are newlyweds, refused to accept hurtful behavior one another. The more you tolerate less misconduct of the other since the early relationship with both your marriage will be happier.
- Learn to fix the situation and get an argument. Successful couples know how to bring a claim. Happy couples know how to fix a situation before a discussion in contradiction to all out of control. To succeed in such a work should: change the topic of all things irrelevant, use your humor, your partner dezmierzi with a caring remark ( "I understand that this is very difficult for you", clarifies that have common interests (that is our problem), giving a step back (in marriage, as in the martial arts of Aikido, you must surrender to win, and in general, offering signs of appreciation for your partner and his feelings). If an argument gets too ardent , take a break for 20 minutes and put your agreement to resume the discussion when you are both calm.
- Concentrate on good part of things. In a happy marriage, couples do their compliments many times: one another or towards their relationship ( "we had so well", as opposed to blame (I never laughed together). A good marriage must have a positive climate.