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12-29-2009, 01:59 PM
Based on a rigorous study, two U.S. scientists have identified six types of love:
Love - passion, like fatal attraction when the object of passion is desired intensity
Love ludic (game-playing), when love is more like a game with rules that can change any time. It involves flirting, used frequently as a means of seduction and maintenance of partner in a state of constant vigilance, it does not involve any commitment and in this game of love can exit any time
Love-friendly, gender friendly affectionate, she usually has a more solid basis and therefore is more sustainable and
Love-rationality, love and the least pragmatic blind, feelings and leave room to knock off some rational order calculations: social status, morality, qualities and defects sweetie, how is seen by others, etc.
Possessive love, that attachment to someone is expressed by jealousy, assertiveness and affection suffocating, the beloved has very limited freedom of action
Love-sacrifice, devotion and sacrifice that involves, lover puts loved the interests and feelings beyond their own person
Generally men prefer love-love-passion and playful, while most women choose to love-friendship, love-reason and possessive love (who said that women are not pragmatic!). From what is seen, love-sacrifice is the least favorite, from where one can infer that most want to receive at least as much give in a relationship (and if possible to receive more than everything is OK), but too few are willing to provide unconditional feelings.
Now that we've cleared that man is more like an 'animal' selfish, would have to be seen whether this classification can help us predict the duration of a relationship of love. Practice proves that the less sustainable is the love-playful, because it is used as a means of seduction rather than to love.
Nor with love-possessive not sit too well. When the girlfriend is clinging to you, you leash, you choke and complain that you grant not too much attention - as you wonder how long you never went out with friends for a beer to talk about football, business , beautiful women and cars - like you come to pick up the chase.
No love-passion is not very durable. Although physical attraction and involvement means sentimental, often proves to be a "straw fire". Once relatively physics, we tend to not give too much value to a thing I got with much ease. Love is no future. But with everything else happens when the person leaves hardly conquered. When you put your arsenal to beat all that you have and how it is more detached, with both gain more value in your eyes. The more we enjoy the final victory.
Are and where the fatal attraction between the two is equally shared by both sides and love evolves to a stable relationship, like love-friendship. But these situations are quite rare and would be best not to dream too often in them. We should live more in place as to have the chance to meet that love talking about poets. If however a meeting, you should consider ourselves privileged few of fate.
Most relationships that are serious and stabilizes a marriage (or simply living together for two) degenerate as the passion is extinguished, if it is coupled with friendly and not based on communication. Interest in other decreases progressively. The beloved, who previously was idealized, now turn into "bad object". Everything before was good and beautiful, becomes bad and the ugly.
The saddest is that the partners often have the courage to divorce - because of age, children, the material situation of fear of change - and the idea of the couple are apart on a background of resentment. Although conflicts are almost permanent marriage still continues and the relationship between the two becomes a "sado-mazochista", in which roles change frequently.
In conclusion, if you live in love at the beginning of their relationship an intense erotic feeling, this state is not eternal, it evolved throughout the relationship. Certain types of relationships are designed from the beginning to fall apart. For other relations who enjoy a certain durability, whether or not to get married, the percentage of separation is quite large and growing, as statistics show. For example, in the U.S., for the second case, the statistics provide for divorce.
Love - passion, like fatal attraction when the object of passion is desired intensity
Love ludic (game-playing), when love is more like a game with rules that can change any time. It involves flirting, used frequently as a means of seduction and maintenance of partner in a state of constant vigilance, it does not involve any commitment and in this game of love can exit any time
Love-friendly, gender friendly affectionate, she usually has a more solid basis and therefore is more sustainable and
Love-rationality, love and the least pragmatic blind, feelings and leave room to knock off some rational order calculations: social status, morality, qualities and defects sweetie, how is seen by others, etc.
Possessive love, that attachment to someone is expressed by jealousy, assertiveness and affection suffocating, the beloved has very limited freedom of action
Love-sacrifice, devotion and sacrifice that involves, lover puts loved the interests and feelings beyond their own person
Generally men prefer love-love-passion and playful, while most women choose to love-friendship, love-reason and possessive love (who said that women are not pragmatic!). From what is seen, love-sacrifice is the least favorite, from where one can infer that most want to receive at least as much give in a relationship (and if possible to receive more than everything is OK), but too few are willing to provide unconditional feelings.
Now that we've cleared that man is more like an 'animal' selfish, would have to be seen whether this classification can help us predict the duration of a relationship of love. Practice proves that the less sustainable is the love-playful, because it is used as a means of seduction rather than to love.
Nor with love-possessive not sit too well. When the girlfriend is clinging to you, you leash, you choke and complain that you grant not too much attention - as you wonder how long you never went out with friends for a beer to talk about football, business , beautiful women and cars - like you come to pick up the chase.
No love-passion is not very durable. Although physical attraction and involvement means sentimental, often proves to be a "straw fire". Once relatively physics, we tend to not give too much value to a thing I got with much ease. Love is no future. But with everything else happens when the person leaves hardly conquered. When you put your arsenal to beat all that you have and how it is more detached, with both gain more value in your eyes. The more we enjoy the final victory.
Are and where the fatal attraction between the two is equally shared by both sides and love evolves to a stable relationship, like love-friendship. But these situations are quite rare and would be best not to dream too often in them. We should live more in place as to have the chance to meet that love talking about poets. If however a meeting, you should consider ourselves privileged few of fate.
Most relationships that are serious and stabilizes a marriage (or simply living together for two) degenerate as the passion is extinguished, if it is coupled with friendly and not based on communication. Interest in other decreases progressively. The beloved, who previously was idealized, now turn into "bad object". Everything before was good and beautiful, becomes bad and the ugly.
The saddest is that the partners often have the courage to divorce - because of age, children, the material situation of fear of change - and the idea of the couple are apart on a background of resentment. Although conflicts are almost permanent marriage still continues and the relationship between the two becomes a "sado-mazochista", in which roles change frequently.
In conclusion, if you live in love at the beginning of their relationship an intense erotic feeling, this state is not eternal, it evolved throughout the relationship. Certain types of relationships are designed from the beginning to fall apart. For other relations who enjoy a certain durability, whether or not to get married, the percentage of separation is quite large and growing, as statistics show. For example, in the U.S., for the second case, the statistics provide for divorce.