Why is it that so many people get a kick out of watching other people have sex? This can be anything from oral to intercourse. Can you imagine being a scientist who has to study sex and its various elements to get a better understand of why people do what they do during such activity? Do you have a favorite position you like to watch others do, or have you been inspired to do something new and different in the bedroom because you saw someone else do it? Of course, some say they like to watch their partner touch themselves, which can be a big turn on all in itself.
There’s a new and improved revolution of sexual satisfaction for those who are not satisfied with the regular sex and want to try something new. That’s when the sex toys come into the scenario. They are available in all shapes and sizes and they seem to be quite pleasurable and very popular. It is even rumored that they give far more maximum satisfaction than the regular sex.
Sex toys has its pros, but what about the cons?
Most sexual injuries are believed to be caused by this sex toys. According to the School On Public Health’s Survey on Emergency Medical Assistance, the number of people who needed quick medical assistance due to physical injuries were mostly by individuals experimenting with sex toys.
Most of the causes of such injuries, are when they are used the wrong way especially sensitive areas like the anus. The human rectal canal is not designed to accommodate assorted alien objects moving through with diversely and uncontrolled. For those who still intend using sex toys, proper instructions should be followed to avoid injuries. Ignoring vital instructions could be dangerous to the health.
All sex toys are potentially dangerous when the instructions are not properly adhered to, but the most controversial and most used sex toy usually cause the most injuries when individuals push the use of such toys to the extreme. Sex Toys that cause the most injuries are;
Vibrators could be injurious when used wrongly especially when used on such sensitive areas such as the anus. Vibrators are the most popular sex toys but when it slips into the rectum, it could become a real problem. They can also become problematic when overheated while being used over a long period of time.
Dildos cause far lesser injuries but if used on the wrong part of the body , it could be injurious. The rectum usually fall victim to injuries caused by dildos more than the vaginal insertion. When an individual constantly uses the dildo on the rectum. Piles and other forms of complications like anal fissures could occur.
• The Butt Plugs
•Ben Wa Balls
These balls improve vaginal sexual pleasure in women. They are inserted in the vagina and then the hips are rocked slowly to stimulate pleasure. The hips should be rocked slightly and not rapidly and always use a lubricant to prevent rough friction that could cause injuries. Failure to follow this instruction, could be injurious to the user.
It works by fitting the ring into the penis. It pleasures both the man and the woman at the same time, but it can be injurious if care is not taken and instructions are not abided by. People who are rough while having sex should not use cock rings.
•Bondage Fantasy Toys
They come in different assorted tools depending on each individuals fetish like cuffs, straps, whip, and also blind folds. The tool that could cause potential injury is the whip. So care should be taken not to go extreme with the whip so as not to cause injuries while deep in the sexual frenzy.
•Extreme Ass Spreader
Just like the name implies. That wider you spread that ass, would push that ass to its breaking point and cause an injury that could be very serious and next to irreversible, so follow instructions to enjoy maximum sexual experience.
Never ignore instructions. This is very important when using a sex toy. Ignoring would always prove to be dangerous. Don’t forget to use plenty of lubricant when undergoing that anal sexual quest or what ever type of sexual penetration. Most instructions basically advice the use of reasonable quantity of lubricant when the sex toy is for insertion and vibratory purpose to prevent friction and lesions.
Toys that are quite complex are not for beginners. Never use a complex sex toy when you have no previous experience about the basic sex toys.
Sex does not necessarily require your partner to be sitting next to you in flesh and bones. His or her presence can happen through technology and the stimulation is often as intense as the real thing. If you ever tried phone or webcam sex you know what I’m talking about. Technology is a result of evolution and everything related to it is a step forward toward the future. Every aspect of our lives is influenced by it and our sexual life is no exception to this: from a simple tease over the phone to virtual sex we are bound to squeeze every single lemon that life has to offer.
Imagine having a sexy talk over the phone with your partner and ending with both of you sexually satisfied. When you are having phone sex it’s all about what, when and how you say things. You don’t even have to tell the person at the end of the line the truth about what you are doing or what you are wearing and this can really set your imagination loose. Don’t be afraid to test the waters and do or say anything that is the closest to your fantasies: the fact that your sex partner is not a living presence can release you from the pressure of being judged. This is why phone sex became so popular in modern days and it also became a prosperous business: in your lonely nights, you can always call a hot line and have a professional take you on the highest sexual peek – as long as you can afford it, of course.
The same goes for webcam sex. You are not pressured by a living presence and you can experiment with the kinkiness of voyeurism or exhibitionism. It can be quite a turn on to watch a stranger take his or her clothes off for you and do whatever you ask him or her to; and also, you can get horny by stripping in front of the computer while you are encouraged by someone to touch yourself in your intimate parts. The pleasure of having webcam sex is also fueled by the idea of the forbidden fruit: you can look but you can’t touch – in this case, the fruit touches itself. Of course, if you can’t find any willing people to share such interactive experience with, there are plenty of online offers that require only money from your behalf, but the experience is worth it!
But phone or webcam sex can be a lot of fun even in a relationship. First of all, they are the perfect solution for long distance relationships as they keep the passion flame alive. Secondly, they can spice up your relationship and improve your sex life no matter what age you are. Don’t hold back on experimenting with such things as they are now as natural as the missionary position. Of course, you don’t get to have intercourse or even touch or be touched by the other person, so imagination here is the most important one. Have fun with these things and remember to always wash the phone or the keyboard after the session is over.
Marriages fail due to boredom and infidelity mostly due to lack of spark in the sex life of married couples. Your partners physical and sexual qualities don’t look favorable any more like the first time you met.
Those times when the bed used to be spicy and you both couldn’t wait for the night to come so you can both jump into a romantic adventure on your bed. There are much more traditional ways to brighten your sex life by improving the sexual qualities thereby boosting erotic and sexual tensions more rapidly among married couples that have lost the zeal to play fight under the bed sheets.
The most important fact about boosting a sex life among couples is that both married couples must make effort . This is not for the man or for the woman alone. Expect no valuable result when only you try to make it work. Remember it takes two to tango.
When it comes to sex among married couples, love and sexual union can only be acquired by a continual habit of showing love and practicing sex creatively. You must always think of something new to contribute to the relationship and learn never to be stagnant with the usual sexual concepts.
Here are just a few but promising tips to enable you kick start an enjoyable sex life:
•Learn the art of walking together always either during the day or at night. Walk together at public resorts or quiet and lonely places. Lean on each other and rub bodies against yourselves. This is popularly called the “rubbing embrace”.
You can do this, rubbing your partner against the wall, a tree or a car. This helps to increase sexual tensions.
• There are no fixed time that you should embrace or kiss your partner. Learn to kiss always. Kiss, pressing scratching and general foreplay should be encouraged and should always be done before sex.
• To increase tensions , there are specific points which are vital areas that you should kiss to increase the sexual passion just before making love with your partner. This are vital and sensitive areas that stimulates all kinds of internal sexual passion. Start kissing from any point from the thighs, the arm, the neck and also the navel.
You could also practice “clasping kissing” whereby you kiss the upper lip of your partner while he or she in return kisses your lower lip and vice versa. Always kiss your partner even when they are asleep in bed, don’t worry about waking them up it is a mutual reflection of your love.
Have sex as often as you can it is an affectionate sign of a passionate quarrel between two loving couples. Always adopt new ways of foreplay for yourselves before getting down to the sex part of it like having intense foreplay. Wearing jewelry and beads on your neck or hips only without clothes on is one way of creating an atmosphere of seduction.
•Have just a few drinks in bed to get the mood up and keep the blood going. Its fun to be tipsy ones in a while and make funny faces and jokes at each other with such a tipsy state of mind, do this sometimes without having sex. It boost your want and addiction to each others presence.
•Be a little bit rough with each other. Play fight sometimes under the cover of your bed sheets. Learn to get rough and physical in bed sometimes.
•Sex toys and new sex positions are great to try out in bed. Explore your fantasies and sexual adventures. This takes married couples to a whole new level of discovering new things about themselves.
•Although sexual intercourse is an important part of a relationship between married couples, sex is not just about sexual intercourse alone but the way you spend your lives together exploring yourselves intimately, through erotic body communication.
Most importantly, always promote communication between yourselves don’t make things boring, be creative if you want your marriage to be much more pleasurable. Nobody is going to teach you how to be romantic in bed, you have to do it yourselves.
There is no better way of spicing up your sex life than role playing. This is the most popular choice among couples that want to set themselves free and make their fantasies come true. When you experiment with something like this you are free to be whoever you want and to sleep with whoever you dream of without cheating on your partner. Moreover, you get to have an intense sexual pleasure because everything is new and exciting – remember your first sex as a couple? You should have no reservations for trying role playing so do it once and you will make of it a regular thing, something to look forward at the end of the month or even week.
Some people like playing different characters to turn themselves and their partner on. There are many shops where you can buy costumes and you can even make your own, just let you imagination run loose. You can dress as a superhero or as a villain and your lady can be he victim that is either saved or held in captivity – sound exciting, right? You can both wear costumes that would allow you to slip in the skin of famous couples throughout history or make some unique combinations: Zorro can sweep Marilyn Monroe of her feet, if you know what I mean. Just make sure you are both comfortable with the choice and if you have children, don’t let them catch you in your disguises, it might confuse them.
You can also do some role playing without wearing certain costumes. This is quite practical and it only requires a change in attitude and some decent acting. You can use your imagination and improvise to get the maximum out of the experience. For instance, if you and you partner have compatible rape fantasies, you can play them one – just use a safe word when you want to put an end to it. No one should be forced into doing something they are not comfortable with so make sure it’s your coup of tea. You should try and fulfill your fantasies so don’t hold back on giving your best shot. Of course, if your idea of role playing involves knifes or any other items that might hurt your partner, play it safe!
Role playing can make your sex life amazing! If you didn’t try it before and have no idea how to do it, just talk with your partner about your fantasies and see where it takes you. You can experiment with it by choosing random character to play from a list both of you make: in this way, you won’t be ashamed of your given task. Play it safe and be open-minded about anything! A successful role playing should satisfy both of you and break any routine in your life.